I’m starting at a university in Tokyo this year and am considering joining a dating club.
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I’ve only ever had sex with my boyfriend, so I’m worried about having sex with men who are as old as my father or grandfather after I join.
Also, my grandfather back home has been paying my university entrance fees and various other expenses. I’m still a teenager, but men who have daughters or granddaughters around my age wouldn’t ask for dating or sex, right?
If you still have a normal sense of judgment, you don’t need to join a club.
Even if it’s for the money, there’s no need to wander into this world.
It’s a special—or perhaps unusual—world where only people who have stopped looking for everything in the conventional world seek each other out.
Of course you’re asking for an allowance, right?
Then what do you think the other person is looking for? It’s only natural.
As for sex, compatibility varies, there are all kinds of people, and every relationship is different. The chances that he’ll be good in bed probably aren’t that high. (Of course, you likely wouldn’t be dissatisfied with sex involving genuine affection.) So there’s nothing wrong with trying a club.
But if you’re going to join one, you have to be able to relax and be yourself. Otherwise, you won’t be able to let someone get physically close to you or even open the door to that world. It may be painful rather than simply boring. If you can accept someone you’re compatible with—or someone who knows what they’re doing—then I don’t think there’s anywhere else that can offer a woman this many benefits.
Also, girls around the same age as the person asking this question will go anywhere with you without asking for an allowance… So from the perspective of the conventional world, asking for an allowance is just as abnormal as men who seek sex.
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Stop before it messes you up~
If you already hate the idea of being with an older man old enough to be your father, you should absolutely stay away from a dating club. Having some old guy force his desires on you can make you lose trust in men and seriously damage your mental health, so you’re better off not doing it.
When I see women who started doing this as soon as they entered college, couldn’t get jobs at regular companies after graduating, and still can’t quit papa-katsu in their late twenties while working at a lounge, I honestly think it’s pathetic. There’s no guarantee you won’t end up the same way.
That said, if you’re already mentally unwell, I guess doing papa-katsu might not be such a bad idea.
If you’re already in a hellish situation, you can probably handle the hell of papa-katsu too. The rest is up to you—at your own risk.
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I’m a man in my 60s, and I just had sex with a 19-year-old on the very first day we met.
She seemed nervous since she’d only been with guys her own age, but during it she kept saying, “I’m about to come… I’m coming,” and was visibly twitching, so I think she was fine.
Everything is an experience, especially when you’re young. It’s a shame to reject something without trying it—or rather, you might be surprised to find you actually like it.
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If you’re feeling unsure, I think it’s better to stay away.
Men are looking for someone who genuinely wants to date an older man, so to speak.
This is a place for adults. Even if you’re legally an adult, if you’re still a child mentally, then I’d say it’s too soon for you.
You’re ten years too young! — Kimutaku (and Akira, too)
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They’ll expect it—papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is set up for that purpose.
You can choose an arrangement without an intimate relationship, but unless you have exceptionally good looks or some standout qualities, I don’t think you’ll receive any offers.
Why not quit papa-katsu and work at a girls’ bar or hostess club, or get paid to attend drinking parties instead?
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