Do women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) really say things like “I love you so much I could marry you!” as casually as putting on makeup?

It’s just lip service, so you could simply say, “Me too.” If he really wanted to marry you, he’d say, “I want to marry you.” Though honestly, she probably means she likes you “enough to marry” only when Yukichi or Eiichi comes as part of the package—two for one, lol. Without the money in the background, maybe not so much…

I almost never say that. As others have pointed out, telling someone “I like you enough to marry you” when they’re someone you absolutely don’t want to marry is pretty damn disrespectful, whether she realizes it or not. So I don’t say it. Though during a brief period when I got a little yandere-ish, I did tell him, “I absolutely don’t want to marry you! But I do want to have your child.” Sorry about that. I mean, wouldn’t it be hell to marry some older guy who has to pay to take women to hotels—especially a middle-aged or elderly man who’s constantly chasing young women’s asses… sorry, their behinds? Still, I’m sure there are girls who make those flattering comments like, “I’d marry someone like you.” The other day, I saw another girl message my papa, “I’d love to date someone like you♡” It’s pretty similar to saying, “I like you enough to marry you.” She’s really bad at this. Turned around, it basically means, “I absolutely would never date you.” Instead of saying things like that, she’d be much more likely to win her papa’s affection by quietly showing her feelings through her actions and repeatedly thanking him for the allowance… And girls like that never say a word of thanks for the allowance. Do they think older guys will automatically give them money if they flatter them by saying, “I want to date you” or “I like you enough to marry you”? Sorry for getting off track. I’d love for a truly formidable rival to appear and try to steal my papa, but everyone’s flattery is so shallow and clumsy. Still, I wondered if someone like the person asking this question might actually be pleased by that kind of thing, so I decided to answer.

“I love you, but I can’t marry you.” “I can’t marry you, even though I love you.” To me, it’s like a boo-worthy boxing match where both sides keep their guard up and only throw jabs. If you enjoy that kind of match, though, I suppose that’s fine.

Wouldn’t “I love you so much I could marry you” annoy women in general, not just women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? “I love you so much—please marry me” would make sense, though. “I love you so much I could marry you” sounds like something an insensitive papa (a male supporter) with absolutely no intention of getting married would say. Or maybe the woman says it jokingly because the questioner keeps repeating that they “can’t get married,” even though she hasn’t really asked. As mentioned in the question that began, “I’m physically frail...,” a woman who actually wants to marry her papa probably does exist. But I doubt she’d say it casually. She’d be afraid of coming on too strongly and being cut off.

Free meals taste good to both men and women, after all. When I’m giving them an allowance, even an ugly guy like me gets told things by women from the club that I’ve never even heard from my wife or family—like “I really love you,” “You’re handsome,” “You’re so good-looking,” and “You’re so cool.” And they sound completely sincere… Now that we’ve met hundreds of times, I don’t hear those flattering lines anymore. So these days, I might actually be happier when they unconsciously blurt out things like “Whoa,” “That’s amazing,” or “I like it” without thinking.

Some people may say this, but I don’t think it’s fair to lump all women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) together. Apparently, there are men who don’t pay the agreed allowance or who remove the condom without consent, but I don’t want to be lumped together with people like that as a “papa-katsu man.”