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Aug 13, 2024 12:31
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🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
The main reason is probably that you haven’t been making good use of the allowance you’ve received.
The “space girls” I know who are truly aggressive never complain like this. If your bank balance were 200 million yen, like that one space girl’s, I’m sure all your worries would disappear. Don’t you agree?
Other
When someone does or says something I’m not happy about, I’ll be honest—I sometimes think, “Well, this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), after all…” But that only happens once in every ten times. Just let it go.
(From a woman)
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If it feels so unpleasant that it’s affecting your mental health, I think it’s better to quit.
But ultimately, it depends on how you feel about it.
If you keep blaming yourself for being exploited or wasting your time, it’s bound to take a toll on you.
On the other hand, if you genuinely like older men and can think of it as having sex with an older friends-with-benefits and getting money from him, you might actually enjoy it.
There’s absolutely no basis for saying that having sex with someone more than 20 years older will automatically harm you physically. You’re becoming distressed because you’re viewing it pessimistically—you’re making that choice and then suffering because of it.
I understand that sometimes being intimate with a papa (a male supporter) can be difficult, and that some people endure it for the money.
But there are also papas who don’t make you feel that way.
Happiness comes from within you; it isn’t something someone else can give you. You’re free to view things pessimistically, and you’re free to view them optimistically.
The choice is yours.
I hope you meet a better papa.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
When you say your body was exploited, do you mean you became intimate without any financial arrangement? Or did you feel exploited because you didn’t receive the amount of money you wanted?
I’m not entirely sure, but it seems that if you had agreed on terms you were comfortable with, you wouldn’t have felt exploited.
Other
I believe papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is ultimately just for fun.
It seems foolish to let something done for fun affect your mental or physical health. I don’t think it’s worth continuing if it causes you that much distress.
I understand that people have various reasons for doing papa-katsu. At least in my case, I won’t maintain an ongoing relationship with anyone other than a woman I can genuinely enjoy spending time with when we meet.
🏅 ラッキーゴールドの探査技師
関西在住で多趣味です。
最近、筋トレにて、体重は減っていないのに、ウエストは減りまくりで、筋肉の増量と体脂肪の減量との両立を実現しております。
スタンダードクラス、ゴールドクラスで磨くと光りそうな方にオファーすることが多いです。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
Sexual exploitation: the abuse or attempted abuse of someone’s vulnerability, a power imbalance, or a position based on trust for sexual purposes.
If you truly are being exploited, I believe it may constitute non-consensual intercourse (formerly rape) or non-consensual indecency (formerly forced indecency), so please consult the police.
If it’s not serious enough to involve the police, then you’re using the wrong word. People think through language, so choosing the wrong words leads to faulty thinking, and faulty thinking leads to poor judgment.
The following may not apply to the person who asked the question.
You can negotiate the allowance freely, cancel at the last minute if you change your mind, or block them on LINE and refuse further contact. Unless someone forces you to do something when you actually meet, or controls you through mind games, I don’t think it can be called exploitation.
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Other
You could try lowering your maximum age range or changing your relationship type…
That may reduce the number of offers you receive, but there’s no benefit to pushing yourself in club activities.
🏅 日没を遅らせる唯一の方法は日没に向かって走り続けることだ
名古屋支店登録で、男性会員としての登録名もマックさんです。コラム多数書いてますのでよろしければご参照ください。20代の細身女性が好みで逆オファーには前向きです。経験無いまたは少ない方大歓迎。
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
From what I’ve observed, women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) start falling apart because they can no longer live with the lies they’ve told. It’s not about the age gap or whether there’s an intimate relationship.
To protect themselves, they start saying things like, “My body was exploited,” dressing it up with noble-sounding excuses. But weren’t you the one who chose to start this because you wanted the money? At this point, you’ve started lying even to yourself.
Try not to lie to others—or to yourself. That’s the best rehabilitation. If you want to live a decent life, you need to acknowledge it at some point.
Other
It seems that Universe gave rise to the term “papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan),” and its catchy name has led far too many women to start casually. You come across as one of them.
Why not take a short break from papa-katsu and reconsider your lifestyle and how you earn money?
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I really don’t think this is a good fit for you…
An age gap of up to around 30 years could still be possible in a romantic relationship, so even changing who you choose may not make things much easier…
You’d probably be better off limiting your papa-katsu partners to men in their 30s or younger.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I think you’re choosing the wrong people and approaching papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with the wrong mindset. The fact that you feel you’re being exploited also suggests that.