My papa (a male supporter) keeps insisting on taking me on trips, saying he wants to do things that would make me happy, and he also buys me presents I don’t even want. Even after I turn him down several times, he either doesn’t take the hint or keeps acting like a child, repeatedly suggesting trips and bringing me childish gifts. It’s becoming a real problem.

I imagine many companies have introduced AI to handle complaints. Even a tiny, easily blown-away company like ours is no exception. Since its introduction, the staff in charge have stopped quitting. AI continues to evolve, but the wording of the prompt is crucial to getting an appropriate response. So if you simply ask it, “Write an apology!” you’ll get a completely off-base answer. After plenty of trial and error, our company’s AI has continued to improve and is now producing results. Before we introduced it, the cycle of “complaint → apology” would sometimes continue endlessly, leaving the people in charge exhausted. That hardly ever happens now—and even if it does continue, no one gets worn out. At the same time, I’ve completely stopped using the kinds of apology letters people normally write, though. I was bored, so I entered the questioner’s situation and got what seemed like a reasonably decent standard response. Of course, I’m not going to tell you what it was, lol. You should try a bit of trial and error yourself.

It’s best not to meet anyone who won’t accept the things you’re uncomfortable with or that don’t feel right to you. That goes for both papas and women. Trying to turn them down tactfully just creates stress from the conflict between a papa who wants to pressure you and the person asking, who wants to say no.

I think you should date a papa (a male supporter) who isn’t pushy. Thinking you can change the other person is completely misguided. Just imagine how it would come across if you saw someone asking, “Can you give me a standard message to fix your cold attitude toward me?” The answer is obvious.

Men—including myself—are creatures who tend to misunderstand things (unlike women), and we’re incredibly stupid… If you’re seeing someone you don’t want to travel with, then it’s practically a job already, so a papa like that isn’t going to change… Ideally, I think it would become a relationship with a papa who wants to travel with you and who would buy you the gifts you want without you having to ask. Of course, giving gifts and trying to make a woman happy is also a form of self-satisfaction for the papa. But the questioner’s papa has lived his whole life without paying attention to women’s reactions, so he probably has no interest in that and won’t understand. I imagine he doesn’t have the sense to care whether the gift was a success or a failure based on the other person’s reaction—he’s simply satisfied that he gave it. Would you throw away the gifts you received on the way home…? In workplaces where the other party is a man, it’s actually common to throw the gift away as soon as he leaves (and yet he still brings one every time)…