I live in Tokyo and struggle to choose restaurants to take women to.
I usually look around hotels or nearby, but I’ve already been to most of the restaurants in those areas. I feel awkward taking different women to the same restaurant repeatedly, and even if it’s dinner only (no intimacy), I’m getting tired of it.
The options are also limited when looking for restaurants with private rooms, so I’m not sure what to do. It seems like going to a restaurant more than 30 minutes from the hotel would be a hassle when meeting someone for the first time—or someone I’m not very familiar with—and I imagine the women might not like it either.
At the same time, I wonder whether women dislike being taken to a restaurant where they know you’ve brought other women before.
Over time, I feel like the number of restaurant options becomes quite limited. What do you all do in this situation? Or, from the women’s perspective, what would you prefer?
I’d appreciate hearing your opinions.
As the other respondents have said, there seem to be endless options in Tokyo, but I live in a more rural area and still book a restaurant inside a hotel for the first meeting.
Since I have the opportunity, I use these occasions to try new restaurants one after another and discover delicious places.
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I think you’re having to make repeated offers because you keep going to places like that.
Unless you show more interest in the meal—and in the woman you’re with—she’ll be bored even if you take her to a nice restaurant.
Restaurants inside hotels may be the safest option, but that also makes them the ones you’d want to avoid if possible.
I think it’s fair to view a club arrangement as one where you continue seeing each other until, over time, there’s no longer any need to keep making offers.
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I would think Tokyo has plenty of options, but is that not the case?
When meeting up in Tokyo, if you choose a conveniently located city hotel, it should be easy to find a taxi, and getting to nearby restaurants shouldn’t be a problem either.
I used to think the restaurants inside hotels were expensive without being particularly good, but I’ve recently changed my mind about the hotels near Shinagawa Station. There are three hotels on the same property, so getting around is easy, and they offer a wide variety of restaurants. You may already be familiar with them, but the yakitori place and the Chinese restaurant are relatively reasonably priced, and you’ll probably be quite satisfied as long as you don’t order expensive wine.
They’re from a slightly earlier generation of hotels, so the lobby has a somewhat flashy, bubble-era feel—but in my opinion, that makes them quite fitting for papa-katsu.
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If you’re in an urban area, I don’t think there are so few restaurants that you’d really have trouble finding one…
Rather than limiting yourself to upscale restaurants in or near hotels, why not broaden your search to include places that require a taxi ride?
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Even if you brought other women there, you’re the only one who would know, so the woman wouldn’t know. Wouldn’t it be fine?
From her perspective, she might actually dislike being taken to a restaurant that’s new to you. She may think, “You’re bringing me to a place you’ve never been to before—and one with no idea what the reviews or service are like?!”
I have a set restaurant for first offers, and I only go to places I haven’t tried before with women I’m already seeing on a monthly arrangement.
If the service or clientele at a new place turns out to be bad, there’s a good chance the relationship won’t continue, haha.
Why not increase the number of places you regularly visit and get to know them well?
If a good restaurant says, “Thank you as always,” to you, she may actually get a better impression of you, thinking, “Oh, he’s a regular at a place this nice.”
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You don’t need to worry about it.
Women use hotel restaurants with other papas even more often than the person asking this question. If it bothers you that much, why not try using the Ikkyu app?
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When I offer women these options:
A. Go to a decent restaurant
B. Go to an inexpensive chain restaurant and add the difference to the allowance
C. Take takeout to a hotel and add the difference to the allowance (it’s much easier since there’s no need to travel after the meal)
they almost always choose B or C, so I’ve never had any trouble.
I think discussing things with the woman can open up a lot of possibilities.
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Is it really that embarrassing to go to the same restaurant with different women?
Personally, I think going to the same hotel with different women looks worse. So why worry about the restaurant while not caring about the hotel?
In my case, I choose restaurants based on each woman’s preferences, so I don’t end up frequently going to the same restaurant with different women.
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