Lol. They don’t want to go.
It sounds like those two women would be better off not forcing themselves to travel with you, right?
If you really want to go, I’d suggest making offers to more women and finding someone willing to go for an allowance you’re comfortable with.
From a woman’s perspective, a three-day, two-night trip is a lot to ask.
I think the fact that you don’t notice that—and don’t read the mood—is what makes things difficult.
Unless you get to the point where women are the ones saying, “I want to travel with you” or “I want to stay over,” overnight trips are probably going to be difficult and not much fun.
To be frank, I think you’ve chosen the wrong person.
Is the trip the main thing for you? Normally, it would be: you enjoy spending time together, want to share an experience with that person, and then decide to take a trip together. That seems like the natural order of things.
I’m not really into traveling myself, but I have gone on trips with a woman I had a monthly arrangement with because she wanted to. Since it was a monthly arrangement, there was no extra allowance just because we went on a trip. In the first place, if you genuinely enjoy being together, it’s perfectly normal to meet without an allowance even when you’re not being intimate. You might not have sex, but still kiss, and the allowance could be zero.
In other words, the more enjoyable it is to meet someone, the less necessary an allowance becomes. The basic structure of “an allowance in exchange for doing something together” can start to break down. I think a trip can be an extension of that kind of relationship.
But if, regardless of the relationship, you’re simply demanding that she come on a trip with you and play pretend at being a couple, then it’s only natural that the price would be fairly high. After all, that’s basically compensation for the inconvenience. If you were in her position, you wouldn’t like it either, right? If someone insisted that much, you’d ask for a hefty amount too.
Ultimately, it comes down to your relationship with the other person. So before thinking about “what you want to do,” I recommend thinking first about “who you want to do it with.”
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