A while ago in Hokkaido, there was a case in which a man who had been dating a psychiatrist’s daughter was killed and decapitated in a hotel, with his severed head later found in the bathroom of her home. Her parents were also charged with aiding and abetting murder.
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I assume most people at dating clubs simply enjoy meals and an adult relationship (intimate) with women, so there probably aren’t many people with unusual sexual preferences. Still, hotels are private spaces where you’re alone with someone, so shouldn’t we recognize the serious risk that anything could happen and proceed with relationships accordingly?
Unlike matching apps or being approached by strangers, the club acts as an intermediary and keeps both parties’ identification documents on file, which serves as a deterrent. It makes it harder for someone to get away after committing a crime or something similar.
Men also have to go through an interview, and they can’t join unless they can at least afford the membership fee. So it’s not as though just anyone can become a member. Even if there is a problematic member, there’s a feedback system in place, so strange people are forced to leave and eventually disappear.
In that sense, the risks are reduced, right?
That said, the risk is never completely zero. Women in particular should be careful to protect themselves. Offers that sound too good to be true often have a catch, so always stay calm and assess the other person carefully.
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That’s true. I don’t think there’s much risk of being suddenly murdered in some gruesome way, but there is a risk that his attitude could change completely or that he might pressure you into doing something uncomfortable. A lot can probably be predicted from the conversations you have over a meal, but unexpected things can happen, so it’s best to think in advance about what you’ll do if they do.
1. Make it clear that you’re refusing.
2. At first, turn him down gently with a smile. If he keeps pushing, show a little anger. You can resolve most situations through this kind of push-and-pull.
3. If you feel that you’re in danger, focus first on protecting yourself.
4. Get out of the situation of being alone together by any means necessary.
5. Don’t try to deal with it all by yourself—talk to someone.
If you keep these points in mind, you should be fine.
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