Start by keeping it to yourself and meeting him first.
Once you’ve met, grow closer to your papa (a male supporter), and wait until he seems quite emotionally dependent on you. Only then, confide in him: “I’m struggling financially, so I’m thinking about working as a hostess.”
Ideally, he’ll respond, “I don’t want you working in the nightlife business. I’ll make up the difference in your allowance.”
However, for this to work, it’s important that you come across as a pure, wholesome type who doesn’t seem like she’d ever work in that kind of business.
Whether a papa-katsu girl can work in the nightlife industry depends on the papa, so try asking him.
Doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) alongside working at a hostess club would probably be the most lucrative option for you, so you might want to discuss your schedule with him. It’d be great if you could make both work, right?
If she can work at a hostess club but can’t do papa-katsu with anyone else, he must be a really good papa (a male supporter).
For me, the nightlife industry and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are completely separate things. I don’t go to hostess clubs or lounges myself, and I find simply being in that kind of environment quite uncomfortable. So I don’t meet women who work in the nightlife industry either.
I think you’re choosing a different world right now. Unless there’s a specific reason you need to, I don’t think you have to go out of your way to meet them.
I think it would be best not to talk about anything unnecessary and focus on meeting first.
You don’t know what prompted him to reach out. I’ve contacted women I’d previously parted ways with too. Sometimes it was because I couldn’t forget them and wanted to rebuild the relationship, while other times I just happened to reach out because I had an opening in my rotation. The circumstances vary quite a bit, even though they all amount to getting back in touch after a while.
What’s more, memories may have become idealized while you were apart, and she may have changed in various ways as well. There are also cases where you meet again after a long time, realize she isn’t quite what you remembered, and your feelings cool off. You won’t know until you actually meet. It’s kind of like Schrödinger’s cat, meow.
Do your best to match your schedules, and when you meet, try to recreate the atmosphere you had before as much as possible. You may not be able to change things like your bright hair color or curly hairstyle, but just do what you can. Then, if he seems interested and receptive, you can bring it up by saying, “Actually…”
When you’re fishing, you can’t expect to reel the fish in successfully the moment it bites. You first confirm the nibble, and once you think it’s really taken the bait, then you reel it in, right? If you’ve never fished, that analogy may be hard to follow—but I haven’t either, so no worries.
I hope this helps. Best regards,
Taro
