Sorry for asking such a terrible question.
I live in a family where my brother is violent and my mother interferes in an extreme way. I recently started working part-time outside the home, and I’ve begun to feel that I should move out. However, my parents won’t allow me to.
My brother is drowning in debt.
Honestly, I feel like I’m cursed with this life.
Here’s my question: I’ve found a potential papa (a male supporter) I might be able to rely on. Should I honestly explain my situation to him and ask for financial support, or should I become a full-time employee, save money on my own, and move out?
Which do you think would be better?
That sounds tough. You should move out as soon as possible.
Get a full-time job and support yourself,
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keep doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with that papa,
and move out.
You should also find a few more papas here to hedge your risks.
If you don’t live extravagantly, couldn’t you move out pretty soon?
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It might be a good idea to talk to your papa (a male supporter) about it.
By the way, what happened with the question below?
>> I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to pay for cosmetic surgery, but I’m worried that someone might find out someday when I think about my future.
>> I actually landed a major job, but for some reason, as soon as it was finalized, they reviewed my background and withdrew the offer.
>> (I used to be registered with a dating club.)
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You’ve been living in a really difficult situation all this time, haven’t you?
Still, I’m glad you found a papa (a male supporter) you can rely on. You should change your situation as soon as possible.
People are fragile, after all. Your brother didn’t necessarily become that way because he wanted to hurt you. And your mother may not even realize that she’s being overprotective.
You may not be able to forgive your family right now, but please don’t forget that your mother risked her life to protect you when you were a baby—at an age you probably don’t remember.
I think you’ll understand someday, when you become a mother yourself.
I hope everyone in your family can heal and recover.
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You should leave that house as soon as tomorrow and block their number.
Are you really okay with throwing your life away?
For now, try tearfully pleading with your papa (a male supporter) in a cute, calculated way. If you’ve gotten fairly close, I’d help you out myself. Asking on the very first meeting might make him wary that you’re a “sugar baby” targeting money, but around the third meeting should be okay.
Waiting until you find a full-time job would be too late.
You could go to a hotel or to a single papa’s place, but…
I also think it would be a good idea to search for “domestic violence shelter + your area” and talk to them.
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