Nice to meet you. I’m 40 and a former female member of Universe.

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I don’t have much experience with men and get nervous, so I’ve always told them, “I get nervous.” Sex is painful for me, and I end up bleeding. Even when I psych myself up and think, “I have to do this,” I still don’t feel confident. I worry people will think, “Aren’t you a little old for that?” Should I mention it in my profile…? Because of my father and some memories from my school days, I just can’t help feeling nervous around men. I feel like I might be able to open up if I met someone hygienic and kind >⁠.⁠< I’d really appreciate any advice. #LittleExperience

Answer 1

If it hurts enough to make you bleed, and you get nervous, do you really need to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? Wouldn’t forcing yourself just make things harder for you? Personally, I couldn’t enjoy an adult relationship (intimate) unless the woman could enjoy sex together with me. I’m not misunderstanding you—I just feel it should at least be at a level where it isn’t unpleasant. I’m not the kind of person—or the kind of person with that fetish, lol—who can enjoy seeing someone in pain. If you’re determined to do papa-katsu, you should probably mention it in your profile. I hope you receive offers from kind papas (male supporters) who get butterflies, like Mr. Seattle.

Answer 2

Assuming you rejoin Universe Club: You should definitely mention it in your profile. A middle-aged, innocent amateur is pretty rare, so I think you’d get some offers. I was a little intrigued myself. Bring your own lotion.

Answer 3

You say you’re a former female member, but which profile are you planning to post that on?

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