I’m currently a university student and have been wondering whether to join a club.
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Looking through the Q&A, I see men in their 40s and 50s. Is that generally the age range I’d be interacting with?
Men in their 40s are around my parents’ age, and men in their 50s are even older, so I’m not sure I could handle it. What do women at these clubs usually feel about interacting with men that age?
I’ve done papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with men in their 20s before, but would this be a different kind of experience?
You may not be cut out for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Honestly, it’s perfectly natural for a female college student to not be comfortable with men in their 40s. If anything, the ones who can sleep with men over 40 for money are the unusual ones.
So please stay exactly as you are. I think you’ll be happier in the long run if you don’t force yourself into papa-katsu.
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Why not start with the appropriate relationship type and try it out with dinner first?
If you have dinner, chat, and feel it’s not going to work, I don’t think there’s any problem with leaving the club. Even if you quit Universe Club right away, there shouldn’t be any particular penalty.
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Since I go out with my teenage daughter not only to the convenience store late at night but also to movies and concerts, I think both papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and ordinary romance depend on the girl—and on the man she’s with. Even a relationship between lovers with a 30-year age gap and no allowance is certainly possible.
Generally speaking, girls in their late teens are said to view their fathers as “the person they hate most in the world,” but by their mid-20s, they seem able to look back on that phase more calmly.
As for the person asking the question, whether and when she moves past that tension—or remains the same—is up to her. That prickly edge can also be part of the charm of youth.
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People’s comfort levels vary, so why not try it here first and then decide whether you can handle it?
I think women who like older men—including men older than their own fathers—can have a better experience here, especially if they’re comfortable with a transactional relationship for the money or genuinely enjoy intimacy with older men.
How much allowance did the papa in his twenties offer? I suppose it also depends on the money.
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At first, it’s pretty much just business, isn’t it? After that, though, I think the way you deal with someone may occasionally change depending on the person.
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The club’s page includes information on the age distribution of its male members:
https://universe-club.jp/men/male-data/
Men in their 40s and 50s make up the majority, but when you combine men in their 60s and 70s, there are actually more of them than male members in their 30s.
Everyone will feel differently about that, and a man’s age alone doesn’t tell you what kind of person he is, so it’s hard to say.
I think the nature of the relationship will vary depending on the man you meet. For example, all of my partners are women around their late 20s to early 30s, but the type of relationship I have with each of them is different.
You may receive very few offers, and women with very specific demands may be rejected during the interview. Still, why not simply say at the interview that you’re not comfortable with men in their 40s or older?
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