The other day, I had a second date scheduled with a woman—the first date had been arranged through the club—but she contacted me the day before saying she wasn’t feeling well and asked to reschedule.
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Of course, if she really is sick, it can’t be helped. But in this situation, would you suggest another date yourself as the man?
Or, for all you experienced male members out there, would you assume that a last-minute cancellation for a second date—when you haven’t built any real trust yet—means she isn’t interested in meeting, since there’s no way to know whether she’s genuinely ill? In other words, would you give up on her without hesitation and look for someone else unless she contacts you first?
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If I were asked to reschedule on a second or subsequent date, I’d arrange another day.
If she were dishonest enough to lie about being sick, I think she would have simply canceled the date at the last minute in the first place.
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Even if they’ve rescheduled, if you still want to see them again, try taking the initiative and inviting them yourself.
I recommend following your honest feelings and deciding whether you genuinely want to meet them.
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> If you don’t have a trusting relationship yet,
> you can’t know whether canceling the day before because she feels sick is genuine.
Why assume that?
If she already had a track record of faking illness several times, then sure, you could think that way.
> Since you can’t tell whether she’s really sick,
> assume she simply doesn’t want to meet.
Why jump to that conclusion when you barely know each other?
Don’t you think, “She must be really having a hard time if she’s canceling our first date the day before”?
Shouldn’t your first reaction be to worry about her health?
I’d see it as a chance to grow closer all at once.
If you don’t care about the other person and only think about your own gains and losses, you won’t be able to build a good relationship through a dating club—even with the power of money.
—It’s me
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She might really be feeling unwell—or she might not be. You just can’t know.
If it were me, I’d stay relaxed and wait for her to get in touch.
If she suggests another date, I’d take that as a sign she wants to continue. If she doesn’t, I’d assume it’s over. I wouldn’t contact her myself.
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I think it’s fine to just be yourself…
You’re jumping to conclusions a little…
Men may only feel unwell a few times in their entire lives, but women may also worry about feeling under the weather, how their makeup looks, and the impression they’ll make. Especially for a second meeting, she may simply want to meet when she’s feeling and looking her best.
I think all the man needs to do is pick up on that and wait patiently.
The impression and atmosphere you give off may even affect whether she contacts you again…
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I’m always waiting for the woman to reach out, but if she’s feeling unwell, all the more reason to wait until she’s recovered and feeling better before contacting me.
Also, I’m not looking for partners one after another, so it never occurred to me to simply give up this time.
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If they contacted me the day before, I might not end things over just one cancellation.
But if they canceled 30 minutes before we were supposed to meet, I’d probably say goodbye—it’s just not acceptable behavior for a working adult.
I’d also probably call it quits if they canceled repeatedly, or canceled and then showed up late the next time we met.
I also think the impression they made at the first meeting matters quite a bit.
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