I look relatively okay in the mirror, but in my driver’s license photo, pictures taken by other people, and videos, I look far uglier and creepier than I ever imagined.
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And yet, for some reason, I’m popular with the opposite sex.
This isn’t me bragging—I genuinely can’t understand why someone with such an ugly, creepy face would be popular. Men I’ve just met tell me things like, “You’re beautiful,” “You must be popular,” or “You’re my type,” and I’ve even been confessed to in real life.
When I look at photos of myself, I think, “No way—I’m not even average. I look creepy!”
What’s going on here? How can I be popular despite being so ugly and creepy?
From a man’s perspective:
Women who aren’t drop-dead gorgeous but still have that sexy-cute appeal.
Extremely beautiful women make me nervous, so I actually prefer someone who isn’t quite so perfect.
People tend to date others on a similar level.
I’ve seen women who are pretty average—not stunningly beautiful, but sexy-cute, approachable, and just the right type—getting tons of “likes.” They seemed really popular.
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Not Just Women—Men Too
I honestly don’t understand why someone as unattractive and creepy-looking as me is popular.
Women I’ve just met for the first time tell me things like, “You’re so kind,” “You must be popular,” and “You’re my type.” After going on a few dates, I’ve even been confessed to.
Then I look at my photos and think, “No way—I’m not even average-looking. I’m creepy!”
I think this happens quite often, whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or not.
With papa-katsu, though, almost everyone—men and women alike—might be incredibly popular...
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Because it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), right?
Everyone defines papa-katsu differently, but when it comes down to it, men and women generally have consistent goals: “I want intimacy” and “I want money.”
To achieve those goals, both sides do what they can and smartly make the other person feel valued.
That papa is probably a good one.
So don’t overthink things. Be smart and act in a way that gets you plenty of allowance.
Then, to make that allowance sustainable, you need to think about how to turn this into a long-term arrangement.
That’s what you should be thinking about next.
This is no time to get worked up over every little thing your papa says, lol.
—It’s me
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Subjective opinions and objective reality are two different things.
Also, there’s such a thing as “hole-based popularity”—being desired primarily for sex. I wouldn’t take everything someone says at a first meeting at face value.
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