Whether you’re a man or a woman, everyone has their own preferences, such as:

I don’t really take that into consideration at all. Even with outdoor activities, going camping on a date seems like quite a high hurdle. I’m fine with reading either way, but if anything, I’d rather have her recommend interesting recent content on Amazon Prime and similar services. A regular partner introduced me to My Hero Academia, Jujutsu Kaisen, Golden Kamuy, and Marry My Husband, and I really enjoyed them. Even if she likes tennis, playing together still feels like a bit much. I have a dog, so dog lovers give us something to talk about, but I also like cats, so either is fine. When making an offer, I look at the area where she’s available to date, whether she’s Dating Type C or D, and sort by rating. Then I consider her looks, body shape—especially whether she has a defined waist—and whether her height minus her weight is around 110, plus or minus 5 kg. From her videos and profile, I also look at whether she seems overly money-focused, whether she seems comfortable with intimacy, whether she appears kind rather than harsh, and whether she has a clean, well-groomed appearance. Those are the women I make offers to.

I do, but I don’t do most of the activities listed as examples. Do people really care whether someone is more of an indoor or outdoor person? Even among outdoor types, some people enjoy hiking, while others prefer camping, and so on. And even if a woman is outdoorsy, does that mean she wants to go mountain climbing with her papa? Women whose hobby is mountaineering usually meet like-minded friends to enjoy it with through hiking clubs and similar groups. Listing reading or “enjoying ○○” as a hobby feels like something people come up with because they have nothing else to write. Besides, those interests are far too broad. Tennis might be a good choice if the man also plays tennis. In dating clubs, golf is the classic hobby. At most dating clubs, when someone lists golf as a hobby, their score is often included as well. As for being a dog lover or cat lover, I imagine the only real consideration would be something like a man with a cat allergy avoiding women who love cats. Considering how prominently golf alone is featured at most dating clubs, if we’re speaking in general terms, I think golf is probably the only hobby that’s really taken into account.

For dinners, I make a point of checking out people I can easily talk with about programming, composing music as a hobby, or games.

Sorry, but I don’t. I’m not here to make friends. For me, everything comes down to whether we can have good physical chemistry. Compatibility in that regard involves appearance and personality, but there are many other factors as well, so I assess them gradually, from dinner through to an adult relationship (intimate). If I feel we’re a good match, I’ll build a proper personal relationship with her. I look for areas where our interests and preferences overlap and try to create an enjoyable relationship from there. Even if it’s something I don’t know about, I’ll take an interest and immerse myself in her world. But that only comes after we’ve been intimate and I’ve sensed some potential. I don’t think about those things at the offer stage. To be honest, I’ve also made an offer because I thought it would be nice to find someone who shared my interests. We could talk endlessly and have a great time, but I never felt turned on. I thought being intimate might change things, so I gave it a try, but it just wasn’t there at all. Eventually, we stopped contacting each other. But I realized that from her perspective, it might be disappointing and even make her distrust people. So I won’t do that again. Taro