Being intimate with older papas is painful for me. The other day, I received an offer from a man in his 60s, but even though the allowance was 40,000 yen, he demanded a second round and persistently kissed me despite having bad breath and lips rough enough to leave mine chapped. We ended up staying at the hotel for five hours, and the papa told me, “Everyone does this much,” so I reluctantly went along with it.

Stop accepting offers from men over 55. Tell them in advance, “I have plans later today,” and set a clear end time—around four hours. If you can’t do a second round because it becomes painful, just say so. If you hate it enough to cry, you should firmly refuse. I’m amazed you can manage an adult relationship for five hours. Even if it’s for the money, I’m worried about your mental health. Setting that aside, the women I’ve had long-term arrangements with all enjoyed sex. It seems to me that papa-katsu is painful and difficult unless you actually like sex. ↷ Women who need to use lubricant because they can’t get wet, or who just lie there like starfish, don’t tend to last long. If the woman isn’t enjoying herself and feeling good, it isn’t fun for the papa either. The first woman I dated was 19, and nothing happened the first time. The second time, we managed with lubricant. After that, she started living with her boyfriend, so they probably did it a lot. Maybe it was also because she got older, but she became increasingly erotic and eventually started climaxing too. She even began saying things like, “You’re better because you’re bigger than my boyfriend,” which made me laugh. I recommend that you start living with your boyfriend too, so you can become more erotic. LOL

papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t sex work, so if you engage in activities like sex work, you’ll end up exhausted both physically and emotionally. Universe Club has a large number of members, so I’m sure there are some low-quality people, but there are definitely people you can have a good time with as well. I hope you find a good match. By the way, my family wasn’t well-off either, so I took out student loans to pay for university. Why not consider taking out a student loan yourself? With the Japan Student Services Organization, even the interest-bearing plans have extremely low interest rates, so they’re relatively easy to borrow through. If your tuition burden were lighter, you might be able to enjoy papa-katsu a little more casually, without pushing yourself so hard.

People like that aren’t papas. They simply see it as a substitute for—or an extension of—the adult entertainment industry. Unfortunately, it sounds like you may not be very well suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) either. A true papa is someone who gives you lots of happy and enjoyable experiences—that’s what papa-katsu is supposed to be. I think it’s also important to express what you really want to do and let out your frustrations, showing the full range of your natural emotions and expressions instead of just trying to keep him happy. Why not try telling him how you really feel, just once?

I wouldn’t do anything for less than 40,000 yen. There’s no way I could manage a second round physically, even if I wanted to. I leave the hotel after an hour. I don’t kiss him unless he kisses me first. For a second round, I think it’s fair to negotiate for about 1.3 times the usual amount—not double, but close.

I think you simply shouldn’t continue seeing someone who makes you uncomfortable. I’ve never asked for a second round, but I have been asked before. In that case, should I have requested half the allowance? Haha.