The only truly incriminating moments are things like entering a hotel room or walking into a love hotel. If someone sees you then, it’s hard to come up with an excuse—but there’s a good chance they’re in a similar situation themselves, lol.
Other than those decisive moments, you can make up all kinds of excuses depending on the circumstances:
- I was with my actual dad.
- I was with my uncle.
- I was accompanying my boss for work.
- I was with a business client.
- I was accompanying someone to a club or snack bar.
And so on.
You probably don’t need to worry about it that much.
The more you worry about it, the more suspicious it’ll look.
When I was seeing women through a dating club, I was introduced to their friends several times, and even met their families on occasion—not for long periods, but we did spend time together.
As for how you describe the relationship, you can simply use whatever fits the situation—“mentor,” “teacher,” “uncle,” “company president,” a former teacher, a work connection, or a relative. If you confidently switch between those explanations, I don’t think there’ll be a problem.
That said, since a papa-katsu relationship could eventually come to an end, I think you need to build a deeper, natural bond of trust—one that feels like it will continue indefinitely, with no fear that the woman will suddenly be cut off.
If you can build that kind of relationship, you may eventually graduate from papa-katsu. In a sense, you could say that meeting through papa-katsu was a success—or even the best possible outcome—and that’s the place it holds in your life.
This is an advanced version of a lying technique I often use. It works pretty well, but it does take some nerve.
Say someone saw you and suspects it was papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so they cautiously ask:
“What’s your relationship with the man you were meeting that time?”
Then immediately answer with the truth, straight to their face:
“It was papa-katsu.”
They’ll usually be shocked and confused, so quickly follow up with:
“Just kidding（笑）. He was a professor who looked after me when I was in college.”
Then confidently throw out whatever lie works.
For some reason, people are more likely to believe the lie when you tell the truth first and lie afterward, rather than lying from the start. It’s a kind of technique.
It should be fine as long as you’re not holding hands or acting affectionate in public.
Just say, with a straight face, that he’s your actual father or the manager from your old part-time job.
Wouldn’t it depend on who saw you and the circumstances at the time?
If it’s someone connected to your work, they generally won’t pry that deeply. Getting involved in someone’s private life would be harassment.
Even if you stick to seeing just one partner, I don’t think that changes the fact that there’s still a chance someone could see you.
