When it comes to an adult relationship (intimate), is a papa (a male supporter) who asks you to meet at a hotel from the very first time—and tells you to call the front desk and come up to his room because he’s already checked in—someone who has used escort services before?

You shouldn’t agree to meet at his place the first time when you don’t know anything about the papa (a male supporter). That’s scary. If you met through an app, have a first meeting. If it’s through a club or Patrol, go out for a meal and discuss the terms of the arrangement before moving on to an adult relationship (intimate). Once you’re more familiar with him, or from the second meeting onward if you feel he’s trustworthy, meeting directly at his place may be okay, though…

Is this someone you’re meeting for the first time? Meeting in a love hotel room right off the bat is simply not acceptable. If you’ve already discussed and agreed on the allowance, then that’s one thing, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable going to a love hotel on the first meeting.

If it was a regular hotel for overnight stays, he would probably have been waiting in the lobby, so it was likely a love hotel. Entering the love hotel ahead of the woman and waiting for her to arrive is how outcall adult services are typically used. Since it’s rare for a man and woman to enter separately for any other reason, I’d assume he has experience using such services. Actually, there aren’t many papa (male supporters) in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) who have never used adult services. If a man wants to do that sort of thing with a woman, adult services are usually the first thing that comes to mind, and the financial barrier is lower, too. That’s my answer. A little extra: Rather than whether or not he has experience with adult services, I think the real issue is that he’s treating you like a service provider. Unlike adult services, papa-katsu is generally characterized by the fact that the woman has the right to refuse. In this case, being placed in a situation where the two of you are alone in a hotel room from the outset would make refusing difficult, both psychologically and physically. Please take a moment to consider whether you’re really okay with that.

People working in the sex industry don’t usually call the front desk before coming up, so I don’t think that’s what it was.