I’m the one who asked about STI testing two questions ago. Thank you all for your responses.

It may feel easier if you agree on a set schedule, like once a month or once every two months. I think receiving the allowance regularly is important because it gives both of you peace of mind. I receive mine regularly too.

If you don’t have any symptoms, I’d say leave it at that for now and give up on making him get tested immediately. There’s also a possibility that your boyfriend went to a sex-work establishment, picked something up there, and passed it on to you. If you’re worried, it might be better to agree with your papa (a male supporter) that you’ll both get tested every month. If you both tested negative last month and have no symptoms, suddenly telling him to get tested again could upset him—he might think, “How suspicious are you going to be?” lol Regardless of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), there’s always some risk when having sex, and you can’t eliminate it completely. In my case, I focus on dealing with it if it happens. I’ve already found a clinic that can test me immediately, give me the results right away, and start medication immediately, so I’m prepared to go as soon as I notice anything unusual.

There’s no point in getting tested for STIs every day, so at some point you have to accept a reasonable balance. Even if you get tested today, there’s no use worrying again next week. For now, be satisfied with that and once every two months should be fine. More than the testing interval, decide whether to continue based on whether he’s trustworthy and someone whose character you want to keep dealing with.

There’s no way to know whether it’s okay to say something like that, don’t you think? He might willingly go get tested, or he might say it’s rude to suspect him. I believe relationships are something you should think through and decide for yourself. Even if you got tested because someone you were previously involved with told you they had an STI, if the result is negative, there shouldn’t be any issue—aside from the fact that the test was from a month ago.