Tips Mar 23, 2024 11:03

We’re both seeing multiple people, but I’ve started developing romantic feelings for one person, and dates with my other partners don’t feel as enjoyable anymore.

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With this kind of arrangement, is it better to keep those feelings to myself if I want things to work out? Also, when you start developing romantic feelings for someone you’re seeing, it’s natural to feel a little jealous. I think it’s best to keep those feelings in check and continue as usual, since people tend to find romance bothersome in this kind of relationship. I’d appreciate your thoughts.
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ダイ
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
Maintaining the same level of distance you had at the beginning is the key to keeping the relationship going for a long time. If you started out with the understanding that seeing multiple people was okay, you’ve accepted that it’s a transactional relationship to some extent, so it can feel bothersome when the other person develops romantic feelings for you.
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As Seattle says, it’s impossible to answer without knowing your gender and age, since the response would be very different for a man versus a woman. Even if you’re a woman—or a man—turning papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) into a serious romantic relationship depends on what kind of arrangement the other person is looking for.
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シアトル
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スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
Since you haven’t said whether you’re a woman or a man, it’s hard to answer. Assuming you’re a woman, I personally can’t keep seeing someone for more than a year if I don’t have romantic feelings for him. I don’t want to get married, but if he were someone I liked enough to consider marrying, I’d be willing to support him for as many years as necessary. If your papa (a male supporter) is single, I don’t think you should hide it.
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カズ
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
What are you hoping to gain by asking complete strangers about something that obviously depends on the circumstances? My advice is: “Why not take a moment to calm down first?”
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