Do most men generally have intimate relationships with multiple women?

It’s safest to assume that you’re both seeing multiple people. STIs are scary, but sex workers who get tested regularly and consistently use condoms actually have lower infection rates than amateurs who take no precautions. As I mentioned before, one woman I was seeing told me that her first boyfriend had given her an STI. Personally, I think things will work out better in the long run if you build a relationship where you’re open about your current dating history, while keeping personal information private.

Men, of course, aren’t the only ones seeing multiple partners—women do it too. Even if he says you’re the only one, almost 100% of men are going to hotels with other girls. If you’re worried about STIs, getting tested once a month should be enough. And if you use condoms, I think you can reduce the risk of serious illnesses affecting your health to almost zero. That said, syphilis can potentially be transmitted through kissing, so I think it’s best to keep the number of partners as low as possible and receive a large allowance from fewer men.

I’m seeing multiple people, but I’ve never gotten an STI because I get tested regularly and always use condoms. And by “multiple,” I don’t mean an unspecified number of people. As long as it’s a small, specific group, getting tested properly every two or three months and using condoms has worked fine for me. I don’t know what the future holds, so I’ll continue things the same way I have been.

> Isn’t it essential to build a sufficiently close relationship? After all, you may need to meet at least four or five times a week… With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it’s relatively easy to meet, so a man might be able to have two women he sees four or five times a week—or even three, depending on the person. However, if a woman wants to meet three or four times a week, I think she may end up being satisfied with just that one person.

If one person seems promising, they may narrow it down to just her, but if things feel iffy, it’s pretty common to look for other options as well. I think many people end up going with the latter. If the terms work, they can be intimate even without liking someone that much—and new members are constantly joining. By the way, I believe the average offer frequency among male members was about once every two months (statistics were published previously). When seeing multiple people at once, it’s probably around four or five at most, with one or two being new. Managing schedules gets difficult with too many people, and you eventually start forgetting who you told what. If you want a one-on-one relationship, you have to build a reasonably close connection, don’t you? Expecting exclusivity when you only meet once or twice a month and only contact each other when necessary seems unrealistic. Conversely, if you have a genuinely close relationship, you can usually sense whether there’s someone else in the picture. As for the risk of STIs, nothing beats using condoms and getting tested regularly. If you take proper precautions, the odds should be quite low—as long as you’re not personally seeing ten or twenty people. Taro