A young office worker I met through this club a year and a half ago told me for the first time, “I really enjoy spending time with you,” and “I trust you, ◯!” She’s always been rather cautious, so I was a little surprised.
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Even though ours is a club arrangement, do you think she might have some genuine fondness for me?
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That’s great to hear.
You’ve passed the gentleman test.
Since you’re in your 30s, you’re relatively young for a papa (a male supporter), and I’d say you’re one of the chosen few among women.
That said, personally, I’d take it as a sign that she likes me, but I wouldn’t take it at face value. I’d keep working on myself and do my best to maintain the relationship for a long time.
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Even in the sex industry or nightlife business, if you keep requesting the same woman for a year and a half, I think she’d say something like that（笑）
But it’s entirely possible for someone to develop genuine feelings for you. And when that happens, I feel that what she says is often far more important to her than men realize. So there are plenty of cases where a man responds halfheartedly because he’s suspicious, like the questioner, and the woman ends up disappearing.
That’s why, if it’s a woman I want to keep around, I respond with 100% affection. Well, I don’t necessarily trust her, though. I just do my best as if I were a No. 1 host（笑）
As for whether she’s sincere, don’t judge by her words alone—consider her actions, the context, and everything else as a whole. You can make the first move too. If money is her only motivation, she’ll react to the money.
But genuine feelings really do exist. They don’t appear out of nowhere, though. They’re more like a small sprout that grows through the back-and-forth between two people. And if you’re constantly suspicious, that relationship can never truly develop. Looking back, I feel I was actually able to build more meaningful relationships when I was new to this kind of thing and had little experience, so I got deceived all the time.
These days I have more experience and arm myself with all kinds of information, but I believe all that experience and wisdom should be used to avoid overlooking those genuine little sprouts. So far, I’m convinced that approach hasn’t been wrong.
I hope this helps.
Taro
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This morning, I hugged my wife and told her, “I’ll never forget my beloved wife for the rest of my life.” She replied, “Forget me already,” and, “Hurry up and get dementia.” I’m Paper Airplane.
Given the questioner’s age, the age difference isn’t unusual for a romantic relationship. Have more confidence.
There’s probably some affection there, but that line sounds rather stiff. Hopefully, you can build a relationship where you can sense each other’s feelings from your everyday actions, not just words. After all, you can say anything to someone who gives you an allowance…
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Hello everyone, it’s been a while.
This is Ryo, one of the female respondents.
As a relationship continues over time, you naturally build trust with each other. The fact that you’ve been seeing each other for over a year shows that you’ve built a good relationship.
That’s why I felt those words came from the heart.
I’m sure you’ve both made an effort to be considerate of each other to keep things going for so long. I hope you continue to get along and build a great relationship together.
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I believe dating through a dating club should involve someone you have at least some genuine feelings for.
If you don’t care who the other person is and only want the money, isn’t that prostitution?
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Even if you don’t know what ingredients were used or how the dish was prepared in the kitchen, I think it’s only polite to eat it as though it’s delicious when the chef is watching.
Regardless of how it tastes or whether you have any particular feelings toward them.
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If you’d just met, I’d assume she was a professional PJ, but after a year and a half, it might be genuine.
Maybe she sensed you were about to cut things off and was trying to keep you around. Either way, don’t get self-deprecating—just take it at face value, listen, and be happy about it. A bitter, sulky older guy is the creepiest kind.
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