My friend does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and she invites her papa (a male supporter) to go out for meals, shopping, and trips, as well as places couples would visit, like Disneyland and Universal Studios. They write down places they both want to go in a LINE note, and even make photo albums to look back on, so they seem to be having a great time.

Basically, I only do dinner followed by a hotel, and even dinner is usually at the hotel or somewhere nearby. I try to stay as inconspicuous as possible, so being affectionate in public is out of the question. I act as if I’m interacting with a female subordinate at work. I imagine a lot of people take this kind of approach.

I like it, I don’t mind older men, and I enjoy it. Sex with older men is fun. Women probably enjoy this kind of activity more. If you can enjoy it and get paid, that’s a good thing, right? I understand that not every woman can enjoy it. Personally, because I’m concerned about how people around us might see us, I don’t get physically affectionate with women doing papa-katsu in public. I keep that to private rooms only.

If you can enjoy that kind of thing, you may be well suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I think your feelings may change depending on what kind of papa (a male supporter) you meet. The whole point of papa-katsu is being able to enjoy yourself while receiving an allowance, so unless you really dislike older men, I think it might be worth giving it a try. You may not be used to older men, but the kindness of people from a generation that feels they have nothing left to lose isn’t necessarily a bad thing. I think your feelings may gradually change as you spend more time together. Even if you currently don’t want to walk around town together, you might eventually meet someone you can go anywhere with, have fun with, and even introduce to the people around you. After all, papa-katsu is probably about being able to do what you want, enjoy yourself while doing only what you want, and receive an allowance on top of that.

I’m not sure what would be considered “normal,” so I’ll answer based on my own experiences and what I’ve seen around me. Women often invite me to places like theme parks. With women I’ve continued seeing, we talk about places we’d like to go, and when we do go, we take pictures of each other and share them via AirDrop. We also walk around town together regularly. I’m not really the type who likes holding hands, but some women reach for my hand, and I walk hand in hand with those women. We sometimes hold hands on planes or bullet trains too, though not the entire time. Generally, it’s probably harder to hold hands in first or business class. We do kiss in public sometimes. I kissed someone on the street just yesterday. I’m not particularly one to initiate kisses, so I rarely kiss first. That said, everyone treats the men they see differently. It depends on the woman’s personality, the way she chooses to interact, and the relationship between the two of them. I’m not sure what qualifies as romantic feelings, but I’m practically living with one woman, so our relationship goes beyond a strictly transactional one involving an allowance. Come to think of it, one of the former answerers is also practically living with someone.