I feel like I can’t be happy without money.

We tend to think that people with money are happier than those without it, but that isn’t necessarily true. After all, when you look at the papas you meet here, you don’t exactly think, “They look happy,” do you? Having money doesn’t automatically make you happy. But you can’t really understand that until you’ve had money yourself. Once you have money and spend it endlessly having fun, you start to see what happiness really means. That said, simply telling the questioner to make more money doesn’t seem very realistic. So here’s my suggestion: First, borrow as much money as you possibly can, right up to your limit, and do everything you’ve ever wanted to do if you had money. Once you’ve satisfied those desires, take a close look at what’s left inside you. Then, in your forties, simplify your lifestyle and your way of thinking. What do you think? I’m being fairly serious.

Everything Taro said is absolutely right. The problem is that you spend money too quickly. I never even took a taxi until I had saved 100 million yen. Until you achieve FIRE, you need to save money through sheer determination. Don’t waste time on dinner-only arrangements—go work at an NN soapland in Yoshiwara right away. I recently read a blog about that, and even people who make money through that route work hard for it. Being a host is completely out of the question.

If that’s how you feel, stop writing long posts here and take action already. There really are women who ask things like, “How can I become independent?” or “Should I get some qualifications?” And I’m thinking, are you stupid? Just move out of your parents’ house and start living on your own. You can become independent simply by deciding to do it yourself. It has nothing to do with ability or qualifications. At first, you might wobble around like a newborn foal, but a foal still stands on its own. As you keep standing, you gradually catch up and figure things out. That’s how it works. Even if you’re a reckless spender, it’s not a problem as long as you earn more than you spend. In short, you just need to think about how to make money. If you want to save while you’re not earning much, just put away a fixed amount automatically and forget about it. Open a separate bank account, write down the account number, then shred and throw away the passbook and card. Transfer a set amount into it every month. Since you won’t have any way to withdraw the money, it’ll build up, right? If you genuinely need it, you can withdraw it after completing the necessary procedures and verifying your identity, so it’s fine. You might call it extreme, but it would work. The only reason you don’t do it is because you’re a coward. For every living thing in the world, making it to tomorrow is a miracle. Humans have developed civilization and made that miracle seem ordinary, which is good in its own way, but it also makes us lose sight of what matters most for staying alive. That’s why conversations like this come up. Getting that part in order should be the first step, shouldn’t it? Taro

Since you’re around thirty, I suppose that means somewhere between 25 and 34. That’s quite a broad age range, so I can’t give very specific advice. If you want to save money, you should think of it as: income − savings = spending. In other words, put money into savings first when you get paid, then use what’s left for living expenses. As for the 15,000-yen allowance, you could deposit the amount you want to save into an account that doesn’t come with a cash card, making withdrawals difficult. With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), a dinner-only (no intimacy) arrangement may be difficult to maintain for long. Rather than trying to make money through papa-katsu, you need to change your own mindset and habits—or your savings will never increase.

As we get older, both men and women can share their money, knowledge, and experience with younger people and those who come after them. After the age of 20, I think there are generally more things that decline for both men and women. On the other hand, we can continue to build our experience and wealth, so there’s no need to abandon that way of thinking too soon. A fulfilling future awaits you—it all depends on your perspective.

Personally, I don’t see the point in paying an allowance just to have dinner with a woman. And I wouldn’t make an offer to a woman who isn’t financially independent—such as someone who still lives with her parents despite no longer being a student—even if she were a Type C. So if I were to offer any advice, it would be to become independent first. That said, if you’re already around thirty, I’m afraid it may be too late for that.