I’m a man in my 40s dating a papa-katsu girl who has a boyfriend. At first, we were intimate using condoms, but as our relationship continued, it changed to intimacy without condoms—though I never ejaculated inside her.

The other day, she messaged me saying that her period was late and that she might be pregnant. She insists that the baby isn’t her boyfriend’s but mine, and says I need to take responsibility. She’s been messaging me every day, saying she can’t decide whether to have an abortion or give birth. I know this is partly my own responsibility, but it’s becoming emotionally overwhelming. I understood that pregnancy was still possible even with withdrawal. However, because she adamantly insists that the baby isn’t her boyfriend’s, despite them practically living together, I don’t even know whether it’s really mine. How should I handle this situation? I’ve thought about it, but I can’t figure out what to do. Should I meet her boyfriend once and talk to him?