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Jan 25, 2024 15:44
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Unless the woman asks you to lower the allowance, wouldn’t you be too ashamed to show your face in public?
What kind of reaction do you think she’d have? Wouldn’t she look at you like, “What the hell are you talking about, old man?”—just completely dumbfounded?
Would you say, “I’m broke and don’t have any money, so please lower the allowance and let me finish inside without protection”? What a scumbag.
🏅 ラッキーゴールドの探査技師
関西在住で多趣味です。
最近、筋トレにて、体重は減っていないのに、ウエストは減りまくりで、筋肉の増量と体脂肪の減量との両立を実現しております。
スタンダードクラス、ゴールドクラスで磨くと光りそうな方にオファーすることが多いです。
Age: 40s
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I’ve never negotiated a lower allowance, and I’ve never had a woman ask me to increase it either. I have increased it voluntarily, though.
There’s no objective scale for this to begin with. The only real basis for negotiation is the paying party’s circumstances, such as financial difficulties, or their subjective opinion that the value of your “services” is about this much. In the end, it only damages the relationship.
If things are going to get worse between you, why not keep only the relationships that could potentially be restarted, and take some time and distance for a while?
With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I believe there can be cancellations or periods when you don’t meet, but not necessarily breakups or cutting ties forever.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
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I’ll answer since I’m probably the only one among the respondents who has ever done this. I have reduced the allowance before.
There have been times when the woman told me, “You’re giving me too much, so ___ yen per meeting is fine,” and other times when she said, “___ yen a month is fine.”
I hugged her to show my appreciation and accepted it without hesitation.
I may look pretty uncool for saying this, but I think it’s even less cool for a man to ask for a reduction, so I’ve never brought it up myself.
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Sorry I can’t give you a direct answer, but if I were considering reducing the allowance, I’d look for someone else.
I don’t think much good comes from discussing reducing the papa’s allowance or increasing the woman’s allowance.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
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Not many people seem willing to reduce the allowance. I wouldn’t either.
Part of it is compensation for having to put up with an old man’s body odor, so lowering it and continuing would make me feel bad about myself.
I think ending things and moving on to someone else would be cleaner for both of you. If you do continue, the amount should stay the same. Seeing each other less often could be an option.
Age: Private
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Unless it’s a group situation like a threesome, I wouldn’t do it for free if they’re not someone I actually want to be with.
I’ve never experienced that “I don’t want 5, but I’d be okay with 3” kind of 60% desire, so I’ve never offered to lower the allowance or continued seeing someone after lowering it.
On rare occasions, though, someone has bought me a gift or taken me somewhere I wanted to go, and I’ve told them they didn’t need to give me an allowance that time.