I’m a PJ asking for advice about my allowance. He’s always transferred it in advance, so does the fact that he suggested transferring it afterward this time mean my attitude was bad?

Even though things had been going smoothly with payment upfront, he suddenly switched to paying afterward. That seems to have been a clear sign he was planning to cut things off. If he never paid after the very first meeting, that would be fraud—but if you’ve received a decent amount overall, I’d say let it go and move on to the next one.

Judging from the series of questions, it’s become clear that the power dynamic is papa (a male supporter) > the questioner. Just changing the payment to afterward and delaying it by a few days—or a few weeks?—caused the questioner to make a huge fuss. Even a seemingly pathetic, low-paying man who can talk openly about his girlfriend is still far superior in social experience and street smarts. In the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) market, many women are waiting for offers from a limited number of papas. Even if you’re already seeing one regularly, there’s always the risk he’ll switch to another woman who’s more attentive. If you still want to be chosen by men, why not think about what you need to do and act accordingly? Even if the papa is at fault, you’re not in a position of power where you can point it out and make him correct his behavior. Since you’re the weaker party, I believe all you can do is cater to him until the power dynamic shifts—or until you’re in a position where you wouldn’t mind even if he ended the arrangement.

I don’t know which side is really at fault, but from a man’s perspective, I don’t mind if replies are slow as long as she responds at her own pace. That said, I wouldn’t want to continue seeing someone who leaves messages about plans unread or puts off replying and then responds to everything at once because it’s a hassle. Rather than being upset over being criticized, I think he’s probably simply grown tired of being treated that way on a regular basis.

Unlike determining fault in a traffic accident, whether a relationship between a man and woman is good or bad is something only the people involved can decide—not outsiders. That said, he probably suggested sending the allowance afterward because, from his perspective, your attitude wasn’t good.