If a relationship lasts for several years, what kinds of reasons or events typically bring it to an end?
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After going on that long, it seems like both people could keep it going out of habit unless something external gets in the way, but I’d love to hear about your experiences.
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Why do people get married only to divorce later?
Why do couples break up even after being together for a long time?
The reasons vary from person to person, and that applies to more than just papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), doesn’t it?
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In my case, the sample size is extremely small, so I’ve never actually ended a relationship since starting one…
In reality, it’s more like these relationships never end（笑）. I’ve been seeing the woman I’m currently dating—twice a month, with a fixed monthly allowance—for six years now. Her lifestyle will also change starting this spring (not because of marriage or a boyfriend), but she’s determined to keep things going for a long time yet（笑）
There’s an age gap of over 40 years. I’m gradually turning into an old man, while she’s grown not only more attractive than when we first met, but also more dedicated to her career and committed to earning qualifications. In my eyes, she’s become a wonderful young woman, and we look completely mismatched on the surface—but she won’t let me go（笑）
I’m also holding back from looking for someone new for my own reasons, so I figure, “Well, why not?”（笑）
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That makes sense. Thinking back on why arrangements that lasted over three years eventually ended:
- He gained 20 kg and became heavier than me
- Got a job and was transferred
- Went on to further education and moved
- Got promoted
- Got married
As you said, they were all external factors. We never had a falling-out, so we’re still LINE friends.
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People who are meant to stay in your life tend to remain there, while relationships that aren’t meant to last eventually end for one reason or another, regardless of how many years have passed.
In my case, whether it’s club companions or romantic partners, once things continue for a few years, the bond deepens and we don’t end up breaking up. My relationships with girlfriends and partners have lasted for decades, and things with women I met through the club have continued indefinitely as well. That’s just how it seems to work out for me.
Since I started seeing women through the club, I’ve seen my girlfriends and partners less often—and during COVID, there were times when we hardly saw each other at all. Even so, the connection continues in some form: sometimes they contact me, or we reconnect after not speaking for a while and meet again after several years.
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