I met my papa (a male supporter) through this club, and we’d been seeing each other for about six months, but he suddenly blocked me on LINE.

Getting blocked when you already had plans to meet again is really harsh. There could be all kinds of reasons, so you’ll never know for sure. Maybe his wife was about to find out, he got sick, or the company he ran went bankrupt and he lost his job. It’s better to think that being blocked is preferable to him becoming a stalker or his wife demanding compensation from you. Try to move on and wait for the next offer.

It’s shocking and heartbreaking when someone suddenly cuts off contact after things have continued for six months. I’m sure you want to know why, and I completely understand wanting to learn from it if there’s anything you could improve for next time. Possible reasons include his wife finding out, or a girlfriend—or someone he became close to through the club—telling him to cut ties with other women. He may have simply run out of money, or felt ready to move on to someone new. We can’t know the real reason, but I’d rather believe it was the former—that circumstances forced him to end things, rather than it being his own choice—and look forward to the possibility of a new encounter. To continue for six months and even have plans for the next meeting, then suddenly block you without any explanation… Honestly, I think anyone who does that is a pretty awful person. I’m glad you’re no longer involved with someone like that, though perhaps it might have been preventable if your feelings for each other had grown a little closer. So, to avoid being treated so cruelly in the future, if you meet someone wonderful, I think it’s good to build an emotional connection as well—not just focus on the money. I hope fewer women have to go through such painful experiences. Sorry if this wasn’t very helpful.

I don’t think being blocked and cut off necessarily means anything. Maybe it’s for the best that you’re no longer involved with someone who would block you without properly contacting you or canceling your plans. When you meet someone in person, you sometimes realize whether you’re compatible and want to keep seeing each other. Perhaps you simply became less of a priority. Or maybe you said or did something they found rude. Either way, if you’ve been blocked and have no way to contact them, you’ll never know the reason. Since papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) involves money, once the money stops, the relationship often ends too. Some men may think that since they’re paying an allowance, they can be somewhat rude. You probably just happened to encounter someone like that.

Unlike romantic relationships, compensated dating has clear objectives for both parties, such as receiving an allowance or having an adult relationship (intimate). Because both people are considerate and somewhat hesitant, they often keep quiet about things they want to say or concerns they have. Those little things can easily build up over time. In that case, people generally don’t go out of their way to explain or point out the reason. You simply have to accept that the relationship never developed to the point where you could talk openly about such things, or that you weren’t as compatible as you had hoped. I think ending the relationship is probably the only option. For example, when it comes to meals, many women write things like, “I’d like you to take me somewhere I wouldn’t normally go; I’m fine with anything” on their profiles. But would a man who loves golf really enjoy going with a woman who doesn’t usually play golf? Even if you do something you don’t normally do, you’ll be moved by different aspects of it. If you don’t go with someone who regularly spends money on and enjoys dining out, you won’t experience the same appeal or enjoyment. It may simply become a matter of her thinking everything tastes good. If you can’t appreciate the differences—not just with food—one person may find it boring. To put it bluntly: > I’m frustrated because I don’t know what caused this. If you’re still feeling frustrated even after being blocked, it suggests that you may have neglected to consider the other person’s feelings.