My wife found out after I got home. She was angry, but said she’d forgive me if I could get compensation from the woman I met.

It must be incredibly difficult now that your spouse has found out. I can only imagine what you’re going through. The club probably won’t disclose the member’s address or name unless this becomes a criminal case, such as a sex crime. Since this is a civil matter, they naturally won’t provide that information. You should be able to get a definitive answer by asking the club directly. The spouse is the one who should file a claim for damages. You’ve reached a point where you have no choice but to cooperate in order to be forgiven, but there’s only so much you can do. You could call the woman out and have a private investigator follow her, but that would essentially be the male version of a honey trap. It’s unlikely she would find out, but is that really the right thing to do? In a situation like this, you’d probably tell your spouse that you received the money from the woman and pay them an amount equivalent to the damages. papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) was clearly beyond your means in more ways than one. Do your best.

Haha, that’s funny. “My wife found out and got angry with me.” You’ve still got a long way to go. You should wait to start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) until your wife is willing to turn a blind eye. You started papa-katsu far too soon. You’ll have to come up with the compensation money yourself.

You’re absolutely awful. Not the situation—the person you are.

I don’t see how anyone would do that for you. Are you sure you’re okay being over 40? Actually, why not contact them and ask before posting here?