Why don’t you just see him yourself? If you’re getting paid, wouldn’t that solve the problem? You’re seeing someone in exchange for money too, aren’t you?
Even when you ask all sorts of questions while pretending to be kind, you come across as condescending. Basically, it sounds like you look down on older people.
Whether they’re 40, 65, or 70 doesn’t really matter, does it?
I don’t know whether people around you see you as being in your 40s or as someone over 50, though.
“If you want to do something, then just go ahead and do it. You don’t have much time left, after all. At your age, the fact that you’re still saying, ‘I want to do this or that,’ means you’re already finished. You’re probably the kind of person who’ll be on their deathbed saying, ‘I should have done this and that...’”
(As an aside)
Apparently Furame-san is coming to Nagoya to hang out tonight, so I’m going to imagine the conversation we’ll have afterward.
Me: “So, how was it? The girls looked like they were having fun, didn’t they?”
Furame-san: “Well, Mac-san probably didn’t notice, but those girls were forcing themselves to enjoy it. There’s no way girls barely in their twenties would genuinely enjoy hanging out with an old geezer over sixty like you. I’m only saying this because I’m concerned about you.”
Me: “I don’t think that’s true. No matter how much money they’re getting, they wouldn’t spend time with someone while putting up with things they hate.”
Furame-san: “Well, you’re free to believe that if you want. Personally, I still want to find true love.”
Me: “When you say ‘true love,’ you mean you’d ask a girl, ‘Would you sleep with me without taking any money?’ and she’d smile and say, ‘I’d be happy to if it’s with you, Furame-san,’ right? And you also want her to rub her face all over your greasy, smelly scalp, don’t you? What an unusual fetish.”
Furame-san: “I admit I’m a difficult person. But when money is involved, everything starts to feel fake to me. I also want someone to accept every dirty part of me—the fact that I’m bald, and that my penis is strangely curved, for example.”
Me: “Money doesn’t matter, does it? That’s honestly how I feel. It’s just paper. Being able to sleep with someone in exchange for handing over a piece of paper is an incredibly lucky deal.”
Furame-san: “You write things like that sometimes, Mac-san, but people really don’t like it. It just comes across as showing off how rich you are. Once in a while, write about pathetic things, like your failures or things money couldn’t buy—like I do. You’ll just make more enemies and people will hate you.”
Me: “Well, at my age, I don’t feel like worrying about what society thinks anymore. No matter how many times Furame-san and I talk, we always end up going in parallel. But lately, this feeling of our parallel lines never seeming likely to meet has somehow become refreshing. If they crossed, we’d reach a conclusion and it would all be over. Come to think of it, in non-Euclidean geometry, parallel lines can apparently meet someday. I wonder if there’s some warped world where Furame-san and I cross paths?”
What do you think? Will my prediction come true? LOL
There are certainly people in dating clubs who lack basic manners as well. That much should be obvious if you read through this Q&A site.
Whether it’s rejecting community centers and hobby groups, or saying they want to fall in love, both come across as selfish and self-centered to me.
If you want to have things your way, I think you need to offer some kind of compensation appropriate to the situation, wherever you are.
Age may not matter in love, but it’s been a very long time since you were a child, so I think you should show some self-restraint.
I think the best option would be for the questioner to see that older guy from the neighborhood.
Even if you joined UniBa, you might end up getting pretty hurt and eventually leaving anyway.
P.S. To Mac: Unfortunately, I’m basically retired these days, and I’m not exactly chasing women anymore, lol.
If you have the money, I think it’s worth giving it a try.
Don’t just say you’re willing to help—make it clear that you’ll pay well above the going allowance rate. If you have plenty of money, they may be more willing to overlook a beginner’s inexperience and lack of finesse as an escort.
In time, pay attention to what you need to improve.
Rather than hoarding money, sharing it with others is a way to contribute to society.
