Tips Dec 22, 2023 21:24

How do people usually spend Christmas in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?

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For example, do they plan a Christmas-themed restaurant date and prepare a present? Or do they completely ignore it—in fact, avoid meeting around Christmas altogether? I feel like there are two main patterns. As a woman doing papa-katsu, I want every man I meet to like me, but the level of enthusiasm they want from the relationship varies. ① A papa (a male supporter) who is genuinely in love and wants a relationship like a romantic partnership, but makes excuses such as not liking restaurants and doesn’t want to spend money on anything beyond the allowance. The allowance itself is generous (well-paying). ② A papa who is emotionally detached but knows how to treat women. He acts like a boyfriend only while we’re together. Since he’s married, he actually doesn’t want me to get seriously attached. He takes me out for a Christmas-style dinner, gives me at least a modest Christmas present, knows how to have a good time smoothly, and provides a generous allowance. ③ A papa who is genuinely in love. He spends Christmas like a boyfriend would, gives a Christmas present that reflects how serious he is, takes me out to dinner, and reduces the allowance. ④ A papa who is genuinely in love but doesn’t have much money. He can barely manage the minimum allowance and a basic meal. He lives on a pension and volunteers. Since he isn’t popular in papa-katsu, he’s devoted to one woman. These are the kinds of patterns I see. There aren’t many men like this on Universe, but for me, how much money someone has is important, while how much they’re willing to spend on me is even more important. Even if someone is extremely wealthy, if he doesn’t actually spend any of it on me, he’s no different from someone without money. Of course, experience and other qualities are a separate matter—I’m only talking about money here. Naturally, I also give presents with all my heart—more than I would for even my main boyfriend. In my experience, men who don’t have that much money are often more devoted than wealthy men. Since they aren’t popular with many women and can’t pursue several women at once, they end up treating the woman they’re seeing better. I think men who aren’t popular are more likely to become deeply invested than popular men. Of course, I’ve also dated wealthy papas for several years at a time, but I was aware that they had other options. They cared about all the women in their lives, but their attention was spread out among them. It may simply be because I’m not very good at handling men, but I feel these are the general patterns I see. I’d love to hear how enthusiastic the men on Universe are about Christmas.
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シアトル
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スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
For Christmas, it’s just a little extra cash. We’ve been seeing each other for four years, and since he’s single, he’ll come to my place, have chicken, and watch the M-1 Grand Prix with me.
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🏅 40歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現AI界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s 👨 Male Universe member
None, honestly. Isn’t Christmas supposed to be for couples in love? lol That said, as a matter of etiquette, some supporters have given me a gift or added a little extra to my allowance when we had a date around Christmas. But I don’t feel any particular excitement about it.
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カズ
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I got tired of it and only skimmed your post, but as you’ve written at length, there are probably all kinds of arrangements, so I don’t think they can be lumped together as “typical.” What I do also varies depending on the person I’m seeing. And since the men on Universe are all different too, I don’t think it’s fair to lump them all together as “Universe men.”
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