A man told me he absolutely wanted to see me on one of the weekends around Christmas, so I rearranged my other plans and kept Christmas Eve open.
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But from what I’ve heard, we’re not going out for a meal, looking at the illuminations, going on a date, or exchanging Christmas presents. Apparently, we’d just be going to a hotel for the day.
Why do you think he specifically wanted me to keep Christmas Eve open?
I think I may have other people I could meet, so I’m considering telling him as soon as tomorrow that I can no longer make it. Since it’s a hotel that doesn’t require reservations, there wouldn’t be any financial loss. Still, I’m unsure whether it’s okay to cancel without understanding his intentions.
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He sounds like an old guy who calls Christmas “Suffering-mas.”
What is this papa’s usual allowance like? If you cancel at the last minute, I think you’ll probably drift apart, so if he’s a papa you can afford to lose, let him go.
For now, he probably just thinks, “I’ll stick it in a hole on Christmas Day.” What a rude papa. I’d drop him.
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Either find a papa (a male supporter) or spend Christmas alone if you’re lonely—but if you don’t have money, just go to a hotel.
You should’ve said from the start that Christmas Eve wouldn’t work for you. As for that papa, it’s probably best not to see him on special occasions anymore.
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Karasaki from the Universe Club Yokohama branch here—I’d like to answer as well.
Perhaps she wanted to create a special feeling by spending Christmas, a special day, together. If she had a boyfriend or a generous papa (a well-paying supporter), she probably would have prioritized them, so she may also have wanted to find that out.
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> But then, after hearing the details…
Anyone would lose interest if they were asked about something like that upfront.
If the man said that, maybe he had been planning a surprise for the day of the meeting.
A man saying things that didn’t need to be said, and a woman asking things that didn’t need to be asked—
The relationship between them comes across as nothing more than a desire-driven arrangement lacking consideration for each other.
I think it’s important for both people to have the emotional leeway to be okay with not gaining anything, even if things end up being a waste of time.
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Personally, I think this is shaping up to be a pretty entertaining situation. “Definitely keep Christmas free,” followed by dinner-free hotel plans, right?
If there happens to be a surprise, then great.
But if there’s no surprise and it really is just a hotel with no dinner, I’d want to let loose with a huge shout at the end of the date: “What the hell?! That’s it?! You made me clear my schedule for this?! Is this supposed to be a joke? This isn’t M-1! It’s Christmas!!”
I’d say this is a pretty fun setup with an obvious punchline coming.
Good for you—you’ve got one more story to tell at girls’ night.
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Just reading this, it sounds like nothing more than selfish desire.
If he’s aware that he’s a papa-katsu guy whose priority is money, but still genuinely cares about the woman, then on important days, I think he’d do something thoughtful without making it feel like a burden.
Even then, if he’s happy that you chose to see him over your own priorities, and it also turns into a good day for you in some way, that’s one thing.
Ultimately, I think it depends on the nature of your relationship so far.
But if you’ve already decided that this is someone you wouldn’t see without an allowance or gifts, then I think it’s fine to follow that feeling.
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Of course, we can’t know the truth, but basically, the weekends around Christmas are very important, so I think he wanted to make sure he had that time with you.
If you read between the lines, he may be trying to find out whether you have a boyfriend or another papa (a male supporter) who takes priority over him…
If that’s the case, canceling this time may make him even more suspicious, and there’s a possibility the relationship could end. I think you should keep that in mind carefully.
Still, he sounds like a difficult papa. I hope you find someone nicer.
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Maybe they were planning to give you ¥1 million in cash. Yeah, probably not.
Hopefully they won’t cancel at the last minute and cut you off.
Christmas Eve is the M-1 Grand Prix, after all.
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