I had dinner with a 60-year-old man who had made me an offer, and we agreed to meet again and exchange email addresses. During the interview, I was told that I would receive transportation money regardless of the cost of the meal. But when we were parting, he said, “Since dinner cost ¥10,000 per person, we can skip the transportation money, right?” I didn’t know what to say and ended up saying nothing.
Regardless of the meal cost, are you always supposed to receive transportation money on a first date?
Something about the situation doesn’t sit right with me, so I wanted to ask.
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Without an allowance, it isn’t really papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), is it?
Why did you leave without saying anything?
That papa broke the rules. Block his contact information and report what happened to the club.
From now on, make sure you receive your transportation costs too. You should clearly ask any papa who doesn’t offer them.
I hope you get offers from smart papas who provide the allowance without being asked.
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There are some awful men who call it the cost of the meal and deduct it from your transportation allowance.
Please report him to Universe Club via LINE.
I’m going to say something unpleasant… That man in his 60s may have been a petty little guy who made an offer but found you completely different from what he expected and didn’t even want to pay for the meal.
Either way, please report him to Universe. Let’s get his rating lowered.
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“Otōsama” is clearly against the club’s rules. That said, I’m going to be harsh, but I believe this was the questioner’s mistake. After all, you “couldn’t say anything” at the time. That’s not okay.
Reflect seriously on what happened, then make sure you explain it properly to the club.
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Putting aside comments like, “The meal cost ¥10,000 per person, so we can skip the transportation allowance, right?”—which are completely unacceptable—there are also some genuinely foolish men who simply forget to give you the transportation money.
If you realize afterward that you never received it and he contacts you soon after you part ways, he may be reaching out to arrange the payment. So I think it’s a good idea to keep a way to contact each other.
This isn’t like meeting through an app, where you may not know much about the other person’s background, so I think both sides should deal with each other sincerely.
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They’re probably targeting women who don’t yet know how things work on a first date.
I can only see him as a despicable man who harms the club.
Rather than posting here that you’re still bothered by it, you should promptly fill out the club’s survey.
Best regards.
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The meal cost is completely irrelevant. The club’s rules specify that transportation expenses of ¥5,000–¥10,000 must be provided.
They’re clearly a person to avoid, so I think it’s fine to have the club collect the transportation fee and then simply fade out.
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At Universe Club, it’s the rule for the man to give the woman ¥5,000–¥10,000 for transportation expenses at the first meeting.
Please report him to the club for violating the rules. Reporting people like this helps eliminate bad members and improve the club’s overall quality.
If he’s willing to break the rules, I’d question whether he’ll keep his promises in future meetings.
There was a similar question before, so I’m including the URL for reference:
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/15926
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