I met a man through Universe and had dinner only (no intimacy) with him once last month.
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We kept messaging on LINE afterward, but I’m not very good at keeping long conversations going there, so I often replied with just a few words. Eventually, one day, the messages suddenly stopped. He seemed to really like me when we met, so I thought he’d contact me again eventually, but a month passed without hearing from him.
I recently messaged him first, and he replied right away, so we’ve started chatting back and forth again. But even if I was only giving one-word replies, if he really liked me, wouldn’t he have contacted me sometime during that month?
Does this mean he’s not interested?
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There really are some strange men out there.
Spending money on an offer and then only messaging on LINE seems like such a waste. I’d ask her out on a date, though…
You won’t know what he’s thinking unless you ask him directly.
I tend to think about the cost-effectiveness of things right away, though.
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Huh? You’ve been messaging on LINE for a whole month?
They’re not going to give you an allowance, are they?
You’re just wasting your time. Lately, it seems like a few people have been coming over from dating apps. Try setting up a meeting for now. If they keep dodging the question, they just want someone to chat with on LINE, so report them to the staff through LINE and block them.
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Back-and-forth LINE messages would naturally be expected in a romantic relationship. But this is a pseudo-romantic arrangement, not an actual romantic relationship, so regular LINE exchanges aren’t automatically included. You don’t need to provide live updates on the papa’s daily work or keep flattering him without receiving an allowance.
If by “showing interest” you mean whether he’ll meet you with an allowance, you’ll find out by asking him out on a date.
If it doesn’t even lead to a date and the back-and-forth messages feel like a burden, you can just leave him on read again.
You could also clearly tell him that you don’t like using LINE, that you’d rather meet and talk in person, or that you’re busy and can’t always reply properly. If you don’t want to keep up the LINE exchange, it’s better to say so directly.
After all, it’s a tenuous relationship that will naturally fade away once the invitations to meet stop.
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From the man’s perspective, there’s no reason to meet someone again after only one meeting if all she sends are one-word LINE messages.
Once you’ve grown close, one-word or even one-character messages can be fine—but that’s because you’re exchanging them frequently and replying within seconds.
Since the man likes her enough to make an offer, he has no way of knowing how she feels. I think he’d appreciate it if she could at least make a minimal effort with LINE without finding it too much of a hassle.
If a woman really doesn’t want to lose someone, she’ll reply within seconds too. So I don’t think she’ll get deeply involved with someone who doesn’t message her for days—or even an entire month.
The man probably feels that you’re not interested in him.
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I’m the type to make the first move, and when someone invites me out, I actually lose interest—but that guy is probably the opposite.
He’s probably the type who waits to be asked out. I feel like there are more men like that.
In other words, the back-and-forth you’re having right now is pointless.
Just ask him out yourself already, lol.
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I messaged her on LINE for the first time in a while, and she replied. That means she’s interested, right? (lol)
I mean, even though relationships through a dating club are a transactional relationship, I think it’s perfectly fine to send occasional messages like, “How have you been?” or “I’m still alive over here! (lol)”
I’m sure some people can’t stand feeling obligated to stay in touch, but since this is an allowance-based relationship, I think you need to make a little effort and play along.
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I’m not that man, so I can’t say whether he’s genuinely interested.
That said, if he’s the only man offering you anything and you’re worried about it, you’ll just have to keep replying on LINE for as long as you can tolerate it.
If you’re seeing other men as well, you can simply cut him off.
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I think it varies from person to person, but if a woman doesn’t contact me, I won’t reach out either, even if I like her.
So even if I’m interested in her, I won’t contact her unless she contacts me first—and eventually, I’ll forget about her.
I think it’s only natural to like and value a woman you regularly keep in touch with.
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