I’ve been successful in my career, got married, and had kids.
From here on out, this is Fuu’s inner voice:
My wife is focused on the kids, and since we’re in a sexless marriage, she’s become less of a woman to me and more of a trusted family member and partner.
She’s no longer interested in me, and she’s seeing a younger man too. So I can openly enjoy papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with younger women since I have the money.
Life is great~~~ lol
I’m 日月新, a male member.
You seem to assume that having a papa means things aren’t going well at home.
But it’s entirely possible that a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangement has his legal spouse’s permission.
In the past, it was perfectly normal for men of a certain social standing to have mistresses. There were even cases where the legal wife took in and raised a child born to her husband and his mistress. Whether willingly or reluctantly, the legal wife accepted it. Come to think of it, Wabisuke uncle in the anime film *Summer Wars* was supposedly a child born out of wedlock.
I know of someone who gave sufficient assets to his legal wife and their children, Mistress No. 1 and her children, Mistress No. 2 and her children, and so on, while also setting each of them up with a company.
These days, however, it seems this is no longer as easy, given how closely the tax authorities track assets.
You may think, “The past was the past, and the present is the present,” but in every era there are people with old-fashioned, “out-of-touch” ideas.
What we consider normal in today’s context may not have been normal 100 or 200 years ago. In other words, one of the reasons we study history is supposed to be learning that our own way of thinking isn’t universally normal.
Based on your own knowledge and experience, you probably assume that a papa’s home life must be unhappy. But that isn’t necessarily the case.
There are papas who get along extremely well with their legal spouses. Some people can pour an almost monstrous, bottomless love into whoever they happen to be with at that moment.
You can interpret it as taking care of a papa whose home life isn’t going well.
Or you can interpret it as having been fortunate enough to meet the best papa of your life.
If you’re going to be in the same situation either way, I think it’s better to choose the interpretation that makes you happier.
That sounds like a line straight out of *Tomorrow, I’m Someone’s Girlfriend*.
I get how you feel, but it’s probably best not to overthink it. Keep some distance and just fulfill your role.
Be careful not to mix up relationships that involve money with those that don’t—it can end up affecting your ordinary relationships.
