I’ve found a papa (a male supporter) in his 60s who’s married. He’s very wealthy and works in real estate. He’s also a bit possessive.

Regardless of how deep the relationship is, I think there are always some people who prefer to keep things private.

>Sometimes I worry that keeping all communication on the site means they can cut things off at any time. Should I be prepared for them to drop me without warning? ↑ I don’t think that’s necessarily the case. There are probably men who have no choice but to communicate through the site for various reasons. “Drop them,” huh? (lol) In my case, I’ve never dropped anyone, so it kind of feels like it never ends. (lol) I just think, “Well, whatever!” You might expect relationships through a club to be light and casual, but sometimes they can become quite serious and deeply involved. On the other hand, some people seem to view it as an extension of compensated dating, where they lose contact immediately after meeting. It’s interesting how different people can be. I think it all comes down to how each person views the relationship.

That’s right. Not just with that papa, but with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in general, it’s best to be mentally prepared for the possibility that you could be dropped at any time. After all, it’s a relationship involving money. I also date with the mindset that I should be prepared in case the woman decides to end things with me at any time. Of course, the choice is yours, but a papa saying, “You’re mine and mine alone,” feels a little scary too. He might become clingy and start persistently contacting you when you’re the one ready to end things. Isn’t it best to keep things moderate?

Since your communication is through the site, I think it’s fair to interpret his consideration as meaning he wants things to continue for a long time. LINE is the usual choice, but what feels safest or most appropriate can vary from person to person. Even in a club arrangement, I believe it’s important for both people to trust each other. > He also tells me I’m his and his alone… That’s something you’d want him to show through his usual attitude, expressions, and actions—not just words. In an allowance-based relationship, words can easily be taken the wrong way, so I can understand why you’re a little concerned.

If I had to answer your question with a YES or NO, I’d say YES. The real estate industry can be extremely volatile, depending on the person’s position and the nature of their work. If his financial situation becomes difficult, you may end up being the one to suggest breaking things off. Also, relationships that begin this way often become stale over time—for both people. That said, while being prepared for the possibility that it may eventually end, why not enjoy the relationship without letting those feelings show? Since he’s already over 60, I think there’s a good chance he sees you as the last woman in his life. I hope your relationship continues to go well.

I’m Nichigetsushin, a male member. I don’t think it’s necessarily true that exchanging LINE contact information makes it harder for a woman to cut off contact, while not exchanging it makes her more likely to do so. Some women create LINE accounts under their club names, and my understanding is that identity verification isn’t required if you only use LINE’s messaging feature. Even if someone registers under her real name, there’s no way to contact her if she blocks you or deletes her account. LINE is a tool that makes it very easy to cut off contact. What matters is whether she has told you your full name and company. If she knows those details, the man has to be prepared for her to look him up and contact him if the relationship ends badly. Of course, your full name and company could also be complete lies. If they are, then you have nothing to worry about even if things end badly. Why not try searching online to see whether the full name and company are genuine? You could also say something like, “I’m worried I may not be able to reach you quickly through LINE if I’m running late for our meeting,” and ask for her mobile number. A mobile number naturally requires a phone contract, meaning the subscriber has a real-name contract with a carrier such as Docomo. If you investigate, you can find out who the subscriber is. Also, people don’t normally change their number, so it’s considerably more reassuring than merely exchanging LINE details. In relationships between men and women, if the man is married, marriage is probably a very rare outcome, and breakups are fairly common. Still, since the term “release” describes returning something raised or temporarily captured to nature, perhaps ending a relationship isn’t really considered all that serious.