I’m having trouble with unwanted gifts from my papa (a male supporter).
This content is machine-translated.
I really appreciate the thought, but almost every time we meet, he gives me something that isn’t to my taste. I’ve told him that, for things like clothes and shoes, I’d rather go shopping together and choose something myself than receive them as gifts. But he usually already has something in hand, saying things like, “You can return or exchange it. What do you think of this?”
He also gives me skincare products and other things that I don’t know will suit my skin, which honestly puts me in a difficult position.
I feel too guilty to throw them away, but I’m wondering whether it would be okay to sell them on a resale app. What do you all do in situations like this?
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂Not stated👑Not stated
💗Likes0👁️Views154💬Answers16
🔖ID(,n+w-00000🎯Looking for answers from
誰でも
スタッフ
男性会員
女性会員
バックオフィス
Thank you for your question.
This is Hana Nakai from Universe Club.
You seem very kind, and it sounds like you’re always happy to receive the gifts he gives you.
Since you’ve already told your papa (a male supporter), “I’d like us to go choose something together,” perhaps try mentioning it again. You could also suggest looking at items you’re interested in together, or casually send him screenshots of things you like.
If he still keeps giving you things you don’t need, you may need to be direct and say, “I’d like to return this and choose something I really like.” I hope this helps.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Sell the skincare products and anything else you only use at home.
As for the clothes, try to make them work with your own sense of style.
Also, bring up your preferences repeatedly in your everyday conversations. Maybe you haven’t communicated them clearly enough.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
If you take one look at the gift they chose for you and honestly think, “This is pretty lame,” say, “That’s so tacky!” right away.
I’m Paper Airplane, and my wife has officially banned me from going out wearing clothes I’ve picked myself.
So whenever I choose and buy anything wearable other than clothes, I get bombarded with criticism from both my wife and daughter… Is it really that bad…?
And when a woman from the club sees it, she immediately goes, “That’s so tacky!” It really drives home that my family is right and that I have absolutely no sense of style.
So, unless you say it pretty forcefully, it won’t get through to the other person.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I don’t think the man means any harm, so it might be better to express how you feel—for example, by saying, “I’d like to go shopping for it together.”
You seem like a very kind person, so I’m sure you probably smile and say, “I’m happy＾＾” no matter what he gives you. That may be why he doesn’t realize it. But I think it would be better for both of you if you found the courage to say something like, “I’d be even happier if we picked it out together.”
Older guys really should be aware that they have terrible taste, honestly, lol. Sorry!
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’ve never actually bought things for her myself—I usually give her cash as a gift.
She has a knack for asking at just the right moment, which can be a bit troublesome, but I just tell her, “Buy whatever you like.”
You should probably just have him give you cash.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
To avoid ending up in the same situation as you, I ask what they want within a set budget whenever I give a gift—though only for special occasions like birthdays.
If it would only sell for next to nothing, it might be better to avoid selling it through a flea market app, since there’s still a chance they could find out.
Why not suggest starting your next date with a shopping trip?
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I don’t think any of you are being given things you don’t need.
I know what the women I’m seeing use, so I give them those items as gifts. I don’t give presents to women I’m not close enough with to know that.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
