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Nov 9, 2023 09:50
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Earlier, in my answer to another question, I kept pressing the point, “What are you using as your 기준?” The same applies here: what exactly is the standard for calling someone “jaded” or “pure”?
Suppose Man A feels that Woman C is “jaded.” Would Man B feel the same way? Maybe, or maybe not.
There are as many different values as there are people.
It’s sad to see things reduced to an all-or-nothing, black-and-white way of thinking like in your question… Though I don’t mean to pry, that must make life incredibly difficult.
People make decisions based on their own subjectivity and emotions. Rather than worrying over an either-or distinction, you should take a good look at your own strengths, weaknesses, and appeal, present yourself as best you can, and then wait.
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I guess the right answer is that you can’t really tell.
Looks can be pretty misleading.
Personally, I’m fine as long as she has a somewhat innocent-looking, calm and cute appearance, along with a reasonably good personality.
That said, every now and then I’ll request an introduction to a hostess or a woman with brown hair, just out of curiosity. I know I probably wouldn’t last long with someone flashy-looking, but I’m still curious.
This club really is something. After five years, things have started to feel a little less exciting, so I find myself thinking, “Maybe I should request someone with a different vibe from the woman I’m currently seeing on a monthly arrangement…”
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Thank you for your question. I’ll answer as well.
First of all, you describe the opposite of a jaded woman as “a pure, innocent woman,” but I think that may be a major misunderstanding.
A woman who isn’t jaded isn’t necessarily pure or innocent. She may want to do what a man is looking for precisely because she is pure. In that case, I don’t think she would be called jaded.
So I assume your question is really about how to tell the difference between a jaded woman and one who isn’t.
It may be misleading to call it “good acting,” but if a woman is skilled at conducting herself in a way that suits the man, I don’t think it’s possible to tell. Even if a man thinks he has figured her out, he may actually be mistaken.
“Jaded” seems to have a meaning close to “experienced.” In that sense, certain gestures or behaviors may give the impression that she’s used to this kind of thing.
However, simply being experienced in bed can sometimes just come across as having good technique, so I don’t think that alone would make someone seem jaded. Rather, behavior that men tend to dislike may be what gives them that impression.
So, if there is anything people use to distinguish between them, I think it would probably be their behavior.
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Are there really people who are pure when they join the club—or who become even purer as they get into adult relationships?
Maybe some people stay pure no matter how old they get.
Or do they become jaded precisely because they’re so pure?
It’s okay for it to remain a mystery, isn’t it?
Whether someone is jaded, pure, serious, or not—the way they’ve lived can become part of their charm, depending on the chemistry between the two of you…
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There have been women who were clearly ... even at our first dinner meeting, but you really can’t know until you’ve met them a few times.
In the past, a female member also came out to me about something, even though I hadn’t led her in that direction.
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I’m not sure about that either, haha.
It’s pretty hard to tell without meeting someone a few times.
The cost of meeting several times is basically a necessary expense.
Everyone puts on an act at first, haha. If you can keep it up, you might just become a sweet young lady, so I hope you’ll stick with it.
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Calling someone “pure” or “innocent” is laughable. Does anyone like that even exist?
It’s as foolish a question as asking how you tell a rhinoceros beetle from a stag beetle.
You can tell them apart without even thinking about it.