I’m a female member who joined less than two weeks ago.

After hearing from various respondents, I’m surprised by how different everyone’s perspectives are. In my case, I’m generally very happy to receive messages, and I tend to prioritize those people when making offers. I already have around 100 people in my favorites, so I don’t make offers to everyone on that list. If someone messages me, I’m more likely to become interested in them and make an offer. I’ve actually had some very positive experiences meeting people who messaged me. Those who take the time to message me are often genuinely interested in my profile and more proactive about pursuing a relationship, which has led to some really great connections. So, speaking from my personal experience, I think it’s better to send a message.

You really can’t know. It might have been purely coincidental, or perhaps that Black member removed you from their favorites because the wording of your reply didn’t match the impression they had of you. You’d have to ask them directly. As for comments like “You’re lovely,” just think of them as being slightly better than not commenting at all.

I think Kazu is absolutely right that attractive women don’t bother checking who has added them to their favorites. Once you start getting a lot of offers, there’s really no need to keep checking your favorites. Some men, myself included, use the favorites feature simply as a reminder. Personally, when a woman sends me a “You’re attractive” even though I have no intention of making an offer at the moment, it sometimes makes me think I should remove her from my favorites for now. If a man removes you from his favorites, then, to put it bluntly, that was probably the level he saw you at.

For “I like you,” I think the sooner you reply, the better. Men send likes because they’re considering making an offer, so if you respond right away, the chances of them actually making one increase significantly. Since you’ve only just joined, sending a like with a comment could actually come across as a bit too eager and put him off. Popular women don’t really need to go out of their way to write a comment, either. I think it’s enough just to quickly return the like without adding one. If you wait too long to respond, you may miss the man’s moment of interest, making it less effective.

In my case, I’ve sometimes added someone to my favorites because I was considering making an offer—not necessarily right away—but while I was waiting for the right timing, she received a lot of offers. If it looked like I’d be competing with many other male members, I sometimes gave up and removed her from my favorites. Personally, I wouldn’t remove someone just because she replied, “That sounds wonderful.” I only favorite women I’d like to make an offer to if the timing works out, although I can’t say for sure whether I’ll ultimately do so. It probably depends on the person, so please use the other answers as a reference.

Thank you for your question. I’ll answer as Maezawa as well. It seems men don’t add only women they want to make an offer to their favorites. I haven’t asked about the finer details, so I don’t fully understand it myself yet, but it’s apparently quite common to add someone to your favorites even without intending to make an offer. If you think about it simply, a man who wants to make an offer will do so right away. So if you’ve only been added to his favorites and no offer comes, it probably means you’re not a woman he wants to make an offer to right now. Therefore, if you send “You’re lovely” and he removes you from his favorites, he may not have intended to make an offer in the first place and simply removed you in a hurry after receiving your message. In that sense, it may still be useful because it gets you removed from the favorites of men who have no intention of making an offer. You wouldn’t want to be watched indefinitely by a man who has no intention of making an offer, right? Also, even among Black-level men, some don’t make offers to Black-level women. Some men make offers almost exclusively to Gold or Standard-level women. Naturally, their allowances are lower as well. So why are they Black-level members? I think it may be because they want to receive the club’s best service. That’s probably a separate consideration from making offers. They may be the kind of people who can’t accept differences in service such as, “This is available at the Black level but not at the Gold level.” I can understand how they feel, though. Or perhaps some men add women to their favorites simply because they like sexy outfits, treating it like a photo collection. In those cases as well, they seem to add women to their favorites without intending to make an offer. > Should I avoid replying to “You’re lovely”? There are cases where a woman a man was unsure about making an offer to sends him “You’re lovely,” and that makes him decide to go ahead with the offer. But I think that’s quite rare. I’d say it probably happens to about one person out of every hundred messages sent. So I wouldn’t go so far as to say you shouldn’t reply, but it’s probably best to assume that replying will almost never lead to an offer. If you’re willing to try even with low odds, you could also send it to men who haven’t added you to their favorites. If the message happens to resonate with him, he may decide to make an offer.

I don’t think you should reply. Personally, I believe truly wonderful women don’t bother checking who has added them to their favorites.