I’d like to ask how everyone handles hotels.

This is Natsuki Otsuka from Universe Club. Trying to feel out whether a love hotel would be okay when making the offer generally doesn’t leave a good impression on women who aren’t yet used to papa-katsu or the nightlife industry, so I recommend discussing it in person. If you’re also considerate of her preferences regarding the hotel’s atmosphere, you might want to share your hotel budget once you’ve built a relationship of trust with a woman like a Type B, who prefers to take her time developing the relationship.

Thanks for the question. I’ll answer as Maezawa as well. Some women insist on a city hotel, so during dinner, you might want to casually feel out whether a love hotel would be acceptable. Alternatively, you could discuss it with the staff beforehand—asking them to let you know if a woman requires a city hotel—and then make your offer accordingly. From the flow of the conversation, though, I assume you want to choose a love hotel because city hotels are expensive. More than 90% of women are fine with a love hotel. (If she prefers a city hotel, you’ll probably need to accommodate her.) That said, love hotels vary widely, so I recommend researching the cleaner ones in advance. It’s also a good idea to have a second choice in case the first one is full. Some of the nicer hotels even have waiting areas—though they aren’t really large enough to call rooms—so you could wait there while chatting. Still, perhaps the best approach is to go to your second choice first, and if neither works, wait at the first one. (It wouldn’t hurt to research a third or fourth option too, but if two hotels are full, it’s probably a busy period, so other places are likely to be full as well.) Also, in the case of an affair, you can’t really use a love hotel as an excuse, so I think a city hotel would be your only option. > “Being turned down with something like ‘Maybe next time’ is painful financially, timewise, and emotionally.” I think you should make offers to women listed as Dating Type D, but I feel many men ignore that and wonder why things don’t work out. Rather than worrying about how to avoid being told “maybe next time,” it might be better to learn to enjoy that part of the process too. If you absolutely don’t want to be turned down, using an escort service might be the way to go.

1. We use a short-stay hotel rather than a city hotel. 2. We don’t make reservations either. Whether you’re the man or the woman, there’s always a good chance the other person may turn you down, so I agree that booking in advance is risky.

I only use love hotels.

As a man, you probably think about the mood when inviting a woman to get intimate, but it’s important to understand that you’re not trying to win over someone you met naturally and came to like. Many women register because they want to be intimate with someone and receive an allowance. That doesn’t mean they’ll accept just anyone, so they carefully screen their options—but what they’re screening for is whether someone falls within their acceptable range, not whether they like him. That’s actually a major distinction for men. In ordinary dating, people often prefer not to go to a love hotel the first time because they want to create the impression of, “I’d like to spend time alone together, but sex isn’t the only goal.” But if you meet through a dating club and go to a room, it’s obviously because you’re going to get intimate. In fact, going into a room and keeping the woman there for a long time while paying her a dinner-date allowance would just be a nuisance. Of course, even if intimacy is the goal, nobody wants somewhere that feels like a public restroom. But as long as it’s reasonably clean, that should be enough. I don’t think you need the same kind of consideration you would for a first intimate encounter in a romantic relationship. I’m a love-hotel kind of guy, and I usually use the same hotels. I’ve gotten so used to choosing a room on the touchscreen that a woman I met for the first time once laughed and said, “That was insanely fast! LOL. You’re basically a pro at this www.” Honestly, I think I pick the cheapest room faster than Jigen Daisuke can draw his gun. But that became a fun joke between us, and things continued for a long time with her, so no problem(^^)v (Actually, women like that tend to stick around longer www) Meals are the same, right? At first, I’ll throw out something like a feeler, but I’m not sure there’s any need to try that hard. Unless you’re specifically trying to impress her with how generous you are, of course. On the other hand, I think it’s more gauche to make a woman sit through endless displays of personal preferences from a man’s point of view that don’t resonate with her and leave everyone wondering who they’re even for. Taro

I may be a bit unusual, so I’m not sure how useful this will be as a reference, but I haven’t stayed at a business hotel or a love hotel once in the past few months. I bought a condo unit, furnished it with an Italian queen-size bed and sofas, and decorated it with a hybrid business-hotel/love-hotel feel. It cost just under ¥50 million. Of course, this isn’t something you can do without money, but I wouldn’t necessarily call it wasteful. Hotel expenses are simply money spent, whereas a condo becomes an asset. As someone who used to stay at love hotels two or three times a day, I keep wondering why I didn’t do this sooner. I was spending several hundred thousand yen a month on love hotels alone, so it’ll pay for itself in ten years. The unit also has two small rooms, about six tatami mats each, so I’m thinking of renting them to women for ¥50,000 per room—the equivalent of one intimate encounter. One tenant is already lined up. So if hotel costs are getting ridiculously high, it might be worth buying a secondhand condo, ideally as an investment as well. The reason I recommend buying used is that the assessed value drops the least if you sell after ten years. Of course, you need to choose the right property. I’d recommend this for papas whose activities are based locally and who don’t travel much for work.

You’re supposed to be enjoying the relationship, but the way you’re thinking about it sounds almost like ordering a hotel-delivery service. Why not approach it more naturally and relax a little? Is your goal companionship, or an adult relationship? I think it’s important to understand what you’re really looking for and what you can communicate to the other person. Even if she says, “Maybe next time,” if you quickly realize that you’re simply not compatible enough to continue seeing each other, you won’t take as much of a hit. I think you can only understand whether you’re compatible—and whether continuing the relationship benefits both of you—after you’ve both opened up and shown your true selves. And anything unrelated to the relationship won’t earn you any points. No matter how much you try to dress things up, the other person will see through it. Dating clubs are actually very practical. Some women want someone to spend tens of thousands of yen on a meal, while others want that kind of money spent on a hotel. At the same time, plenty of women don’t care where you eat or which hotel you use. If you’re staying at a city hotel, it may be smoother to check in and get the room ready before meeting her. But if you’re going to overthink every detail, I think it’s far more important to hit it off after meeting in person—and that flow feels much more natural. Also, personally, if I were going to spend as much on a hotel as the allowance, I’d find it more worthwhile to go shopping together and buy her clothes, shoes, underwear, pajamas, or something similar.

That’s right. With C or D types, there’s a possibility of going to a hotel from the first meeting, but there’s also a chance it won’t happen. Sometimes she may turn it down, and sometimes I may be the one to decline. So for a first meeting, I usually go with a love hotel. Since these are women from a dating club, I try to choose as upscale a love hotel as possible—around ¥10,000 even for a short stay. If needed, I can also make a last-minute reservation at a city hotel through Ikyu.com, so I decide based on the situation. Basically, though, I think it’s better for both sides not to book a hotel in advance for the first meeting.

At city hotels, I check in first and then go to the meeting spot. I don’t want to make her wait in the hotel lobby while I’m checking in.