Before the COVID-19 pandemic, I used this service and had dinner with one man twice.

The same sort of thing happened to me. I decided I couldn’t continue seeing the man, so I blocked him on LINE. After that, a similar package was delivered to my workplace. In my case, it was some cheap-looking sexy lingerie. I had told him my real name, so it seems he searched for me using my name and occupation and tracked down my workplace. Since I had been introduced to him through a club and it happened relatively soon afterward, I reported it to the club. He was probably warned, because although his profile had been visible before, he disappeared from the listings. That was the end of the stalking-like behavior. Marika

Isn’t that adult video one you appeared in??? If so, there’s virtually no chance this will turn into a legal incident. Men who aren’t used to that kind of thing may panic at first, but they’ll calm down eventually. Also, it’s a videotape, not a DVD, huh… Taro

Try consulting a relatively large police station. In my limited experience, though, their ability to handle these matters varies considerably. If you don’t get anywhere, try going on another day. Also, don’t throw away any evidence—keep it safely stored, as it may be needed for an investigation. If you receive anything similar, don’t open it either. When several threatening letters were sent to my company, I opened them and took them to the police, only to get seriously chewed out. Unless there are clear threats or stalking involved, you shouldn’t expect too much from the police when it comes to something of this nature. Officially, they operate 24 hours a day, but try to avoid lunchtime and after 4 p.m. Remember, they’re civil servants. According to an elite police officer friend of mine, infidelity is rampant within the police force, so they don’t take romantic disputes between men and women very seriously. At the same time, a fair proportion of their nighttime callouts involve domestic disputes. For example, if a wife calls and says, “My husband says he’s going to kill me,” they have to respond and prepare a report. So when it’s merely a lovers’ quarrel, they generally don’t want to get involved. Incidentally, this same friend once declared that a threesome with two female police officers was incredibly exciting. As for lawyers, it depends even more on the individual than it does with the police. You wouldn’t normally go to an ENT specialist when your eyes hurt, right? Lawyers each have their own areas of expertise and limitations, so do some research before consulting one. Some offer a free initial consultation of up to 30 minutes. If you consult a lawyer, prepare a clear set of documents and explain the situation concisely. If you ramble on, you may end up being charged an unexpectedly high consultation fee. Be careful. It may sound surprising, but based on the questioner’s situation, a private investigator’s office would probably be the most effective option. Depending on the fee, they can investigate things to the point where you’ll be saying, “They can look into even that?!” However, the difference in ability between agencies is huge, and the truly competent ones are extremely expensive.

Hopefully the harassment against your company doesn’t continue. Did you tell him where you work? If not, there’s also a possibility that it’s a different stalker. If it continues, I think it would be best to consult the police or a lawyer. Depending on the situation, a private investigator might also be helpful, so it may be worth looking into that as well.

Since this was before the COVID-19 pandemic—meaning more than three years ago—I think it must have been someone else. If it was the man you had dinner with, he must have had a serious grudge against you. You should probably think of other possible reasons, besides the fact that you lied about returning to your hometown and ended things.

You should simply consult the police. Since this is stalking, they should listen to you seriously. For now, take photos—including the shipping label—before throwing anything away. Don’t just keep them on your phone; copy them to a password-protected file on your computer as well. Evidence is important when you need it.

Thank you for your question. I’ll answer as Maezawa as well. The fact that you say packages from strangers have arrived before is a little frightening. Normally, I don’t think that happens. “A letter saying that lies will not be tolerated, included with an angry message…” It sounds like you should try to live without telling lies. Having someone resent you so much because you lied must mean something quite serious happened. Considering the circumstances, I don’t think simply having dinner twice would be enough to make someone resent you that intensely. So either it’s probably someone else, or you may have done something else that caused someone to hold a grudge. > I’d like to resolve this without making it a major issue if possible. What would be the best way to handle it? The way you’ve written this already makes it sound like you want to turn it into an incident. Normally, I think you could simply ignore it and throw it away. If you did enough to make them worry about you, I think you should properly acknowledge how strong their resentment may be.