① Some women leave, while others remain registered.
Those who leave often stay for about six months and then quietly stop using the service. I think Taro’s comment really makes sense: “Even after they find a monthly arrangement, they probably continue trying and comparing different options behind the scenes for a while. Eventually, they seem to settle on one person, thinking, ‘I guess this is good enough.’”
② I haven’t left Universe either, but I don’t log in anymore. I’ve withdrawn from some other dating clubs. I’ve also stopped paying for the apps. The occasional campaign notifications are annoying, so I may delete my accounts there as well.
That said, I currently see about six people regularly. I don’t want to increase that number any further, which is the only reason I’m not looking for anyone new.
So even if a woman withdraws, it doesn’t necessarily mean she only has one papa (a male supporter). I assume many of them probably have several regular arrangements.
Whether one papa is enough depends on how often they meet him and the balance between his allowance and how much she wants, don’t you think?
By the way, a beginner isn’t necessarily someone with no prior experience.
My vote goes to Taro!
Since joining, I’ve only ever had an adult relationship with one woman. I never quit the club, and after finding my partner, I didn’t make any offers for five years.
The woman I was seeing eventually left without renewing her membership.
There’ll be a change in her life circumstances next spring, so it looks like our adult relationship will be coming to an end.
As for the questions:
① I don’t think I’ll quit right away, but some people do decide to leave after assessing their partner’s outlook and behavior.
② I haven’t quit either（笑）
To begin with, there was an age gap of more than 40 years, so I assumed she’d eventually turn me down. But somehow, it’s lasted a full five years.
I still check the site（笑）
There are some beautiful women on there, so it’s fun!
A lot of men seem to say things like that, but if you read between the lines, I think what they really mean is, “I want to play at being in a genuinely romantic relationship.” So even while saying that, they’ll keep having little side encounters here and there. Sometimes a woman really does come along whom they decide to focus on exclusively, but I think that’s pretty rare. And when such a woman does appear, she would never make the condescending remarks you mentioned in your question. This is just my personal opinion, though, since it probably varies from person to person.
I do feel that women often narrow down their options as they continue with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for a long time. But it’s not usually that they immediately quit once they’ve settled on a monthly arrangement. Even after that, they probably keep trying and comparing different options behind the scenes for a while, eventually compromising with a “Well, I guess this is good enough” attitude and settling on one person.
This is the opposite of what your question was asking about, but there are women like that too. They’ll say at first that they want to meet all kinds of people, then later start saying they want to focus on just one person—and pressure you to do the same. It’s like, “What is this? The way she latched onto me after finding her catch is pretty intense, huh? lol” I can’t help blurting out sarcastic things like, “But you said you wanted to meet lots of different people at first,” or, “You know, it’s totally fine if you keep seeing people other than me too, lol.”
I don’t think people fall completely head over heels that easily. But plenty of men and women alike want to turn things into a romanticized story like that. In the end, it’s all about self-interest. You just need to respond to calculation with calculation: “Ah, so that’s the kind of game you want to play. Understood.” That’s the way to handle it.
You gradually learn someone’s true feelings over time. Even if you’ve had an adult relationship (intimate) many times and reached the point where you can count each other’s intimate details, I think the real relationship is still several steps beyond that.
Taro
