I’m a beginner who uses Universe a few times a month. I’m more on the submissive side and tend to like women who are dominant or have a nurturing, maternal side.
Looking through the profiles on Universe, most of the women seem to be more submissive. Maybe papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) just isn’t right for me?
I’d appreciate any ideas on how I could meet the kind of women I’m looking for more easily.
Thank you.
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Look a little more carefully.
If you search properly, you should be able to find someone.
The woman I recently met was very sexy and had a strong dominant streak.
I’m probably more on the dominant side myself, but I had a great time with her, including the adult relationship (intimate), so I’m thinking I might continue seeing her for a while longer.
By the way, she’s a very beautiful woman in her twenties with an F-cup, but surprisingly, she’d received very few offers.
My guess is that men at these clubs tend to prefer submissive women, so women with a dominant side probably receive fewer offers.
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I try to let go of preconceived notions and simply trust my feelings and intuition when we’re together.
What we like or dislike is often based on assumptions we’ve made about ourselves—or even self-suggestion.
As we spend time together, women often awaken preferences or talents in me that I wasn’t even aware of.
If I can play the same role for someone else, I feel that makes it a truly meaningful connection.
—It’s me
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I’m Unno, a club staff member.
I don’t think it necessarily means you’re not suited for it! That said, I do personally feel that there are fewer dominant women than submissive ones, so why not ask the club staff if they can recommend a dominant woman…?
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One of my favorite club women is extremely dominant, but only in terms of the relationship dynamic, so she isn’t like that in bed…
If you’re looking for a dominant woman for adult play rather than a relationship, I don’t think you necessarily need to use a dating club.
If you’re looking for a relationship, there are women who are somewhat dominant or have a nurturing, maternal side.
People connected through a dating club are in a relationship they can’t talk about with anyone else. Because of that unique nature, it’s possible to deepen the relationship—but whether you bring out that potential and build that kind of bond is up to you.
Being the first person they tell or consult about things they can’t discuss with their wife, partner, or best friend, sharing updates, doing things together, and helping each other—all of that comes from being connected through a relationship that both sides keep secret from their families.
A hidden allowance-based relationship and the bond that comes with it can sometimes become very strong.
On the other hand, there are also relationships where the other person is constantly thinking, “Ugh, this is such a hassle,” deep down.
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I suspect that women on Uchu Club who put “M” in their profiles either think it will appeal more to older men, or simply don’t know their own preferences very well.
It depends on how dominant a woman you’re looking for, but in my experience, there are quite a few who are immediately good enough to be taken on by a serious? BDSM club. Unfortunately, that’s not something you can easily judge from a profile, so the only real option is to make an offer and see. As a general rule of thumb, I find your chances are better if you choose women who look as mean as possible.
That said, some women call themselves dominant when they’re really only interested in “expensive shopping play” or “unlimited allowance play,” so do be careful.
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Just like Kazu said, if you’re into BDSM, there are specialty shops for that, so it’s probably best to start by talking to someone there.
There are all kinds of submissive guys, too. I recently heard about a category called “ego M”—they’re submissive, but still act superior, saying things like, “Come on, dominate me properly and make me feel good!”
The questioner probably doesn’t even know what level or direction they’re into yet. (Everyone thinks they’re “normal”—just a regular submissive.) So first, go on a journey of self-discovery. Once you understand yourself, you’ll naturally start to see what kind of woman suits you and where to meet her. After that, it might be a good idea to look for a partner through opportunities to meet ordinary women, such as Universe.
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