I joined Universe Club almost a year ago. Shortly after registering, I received an offer and began seeing a papa (a male supporter) whom I really liked. Several times, he asked me to bring a girl along because he was going to have dinner with a male friend.
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I’ve never told anyone about this kind of activity, so I was at a loss. In the end, I went alone, and his friend, a married man, told me that he was looking for a girlfriend and asked me to bring a cute friend next time. That meeting ended up being paid at roughly the allowance level for a first meeting.
After that, he kept asking me to introduce someone. When I turned him down several times—saying, for example, that I had invited a friend but our schedules didn’t work out—he stopped asking me out on our usual dates as well.
He was the first papa I met after joining the club, and I really liked him. He had also taken good care of me, so I was extremely sad.
It’s been about six months now. I’m trying to move on, wondering whether I simply wasn’t appealing enough or whether he had already grown tired of me, while also looking forward to meeting someone new. But I still can’t make sense of what he meant by asking me to introduce a friend. I’d really appreciate hearing your opinions or interpretations so I can learn from this going forward.
Thank you in advance.
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papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is something you do discreetly. You’re better off staying away from men like that.
This time, though, it ended with, “Ah, what a relief!” So all’s well that ends well.
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From a man’s perspective, if he’s suggesting a group date, it may be because he no longer sees the appeal or value in meeting one-on-one, but would be willing to meet if it involved several people or if he could introduce someone to his friends.
Once he realizes he can’t introduce a woman to his friends, he may no longer have a reason to meet you.
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For women, gatherings like this clearly fall into two categories: those who are okay with them and those who aren’t.
So before moving things forward, I think the man needs to explain everything in advance and get the woman’s consent. Did that happen?
Unfortunately, since an allowance was paid, it’s also clear that this was papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
The questioner’s papa (a male supporter) may not have meant any harm, but he certainly lacked tact.
There are men like this, so women need to protect themselves too.
When your papa brought it up, one appropriate response would have been to clearly say: “I’d like to continue seeing you, but I’m not comfortable with gatherings like this. I’m sorry.”
You shouldn’t invite your female friends either. What would you do if it caused trouble?
I’m guessing the papa probably told one of his male friends about Universe Club, and the friend said something like, “That sounds great—introduce me to some women too!” Maybe that’s how this came about.
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Maybe your friend is hesitant to join for some reason—perhaps she can’t afford the offer fee—and you’re hoping to enjoy a group experience with her, as in two couples, four people total?
The man in question may also be inexperienced with this kind of dating, and perhaps assumes that women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) have their own network and can easily find a “friend” to bring along.
There are women like that, so maybe the person he was seeing before was one of them.
The first few dates may be ordinary dates while everyone feels things out, but their preferences and tendencies gradually become clear. I don’t know whether that man specifically wants group play, but perhaps he simply enjoys spending time with multiple couples—or wants to introduce girls to his friends and show off smugly. In that sense, it may just be that your preferences weren’t compatible.
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I can only assume that either he didn’t want to pay a setting fee, or he had a preference for getting female friends together for group sex.
There may be other possibilities, but those are the only two that immediately came to mind.
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