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Sep 19, 2023 18:35
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Ugh, this is exactly why women end up keeping more and more things secret—like not wanting to give out their real names.
You don’t need to know anything about a woman’s life outside the time she spends with you, do you?
You’re beyond creepy—you’re scary. You really need to recognize that.
Marika
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Age: 50s
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I think keeping it hidden is a sign of consideration and thoughtfulness toward the other person.
“Your partner’s life is a mystery? That’s none of your business.”
And who exactly is saying that?
It’s me.
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I’ve also dated a woman in the past who was full of mysteries.
When someone is too mysterious, it starts to feel like solving riddles, which can be exhausting.
I decided I’d rather have a more open and relaxed relationship.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
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I don’t think many people hide the fact that they’re married.
Of course there are bound to be plenty of things you don’t know about someone’s life when you’re dating them.
Even my spouse had many mysteries.
In your case, you should realize that you’re a rather dangerous type who tries to control your partner.
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Age: 60s
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When you make everything about yourself, your perspective becomes narrow. I’ve been that way too, so I think I understand how you feel.
Whether married or single, the other person has their own circumstances and relationships, just as you do. It’s impossible to know everything, and there may be things they want to keep private—or simply don’t want others to know. You might naturally learn some of these things as the relationship develops. Why not enjoy that process?
I once had a brief conversation with the writer Shizuka Ijuin at a party. He said, “There’s absolutely nothing good that comes from knowing all about women.” I don’t completely agree, but I could see his point. There’s also the saying, “What you don’t know can’t hurt you.”
Don’t you think a mysterious woman is more attractive?
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It’s not real love… think of it as a contractual relationship.
I keep talking about women, but are you single?
Age: Private
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If the question is whether they exist or not, I’d say they do.
In fact, I’m more curious why you thought there were none at all.