For those who have been in a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) relationship for a fairly long time—over a year—or have had one before, I have a question:
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Do you ever get tired of your partner or start to feel like the relationship has become routine?
My papa (a male supporter) and I have been seeing each other for about a year. We travel together about once a month, and we also message each other on LINE every day, so we’re close and genuinely enjoy our relationship.
We had agreed that we would each only see one partner. But one day, I happened to catch a glimpse of my papa’s phone and realized he had the club’s members-only page open. I had already left the club, and he had told me he had too, so I was really hurt.
It made me wonder if he’s looking for another woman.
I understand that relationships can inevitably start to feel routine over time, but in an allowance-based relationship, what usually prompts people to end things?
I’d also appreciate hearing about anything you do to keep a long-term relationship going.
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Honestly, I don’t think it’s all that different from a romantic relationship. If there is a difference, it may be when financial support is no longer really needed.
So I think people can part ways for the same reasons they do in romantic relationships—feelings fade, the relationship becomes a burden, they meet someone else they like, and so on. Staying together for years doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll never break up.
This is slightly beside the point of your question, but just because he was looking at the club’s website, I think it’s too soon to assume he’s searching for other women. Even when I have someone important in my life, I sometimes browse the club’s site just for something to read. Since club memberships are for one year, I think relatively few men cancel partway through on their own. In other words, they may still be members but not actively looking.
That said, it’s understandable that you’re worried and hurt. I know how you feel.
It’s not the same as him signing up for a dating app, so for your own peace of mind, try not to take it too seriously. Instead, cherish the time you spend together so that you both continue to value each other—that will ultimately lead to a wonderful relationship.
Try not to worry, and enjoy being together.
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I’ve been with my favorite papa for two and a half years now, and I still haven’t gotten bored at all.
What’s more, our dates are pretty repetitive—we usually spend the night together, and we see each other once a week. Even I find it kind of amazing.
I guess it would only end if I fell for someone else.
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If I start feeling bored after just a few meetings, or she gets too comfortable and starts cutting corners—like no longer giving me oral—I end things and make offers to other women.
My longest monthly arrangement has continued for five years. I haven’t gotten bored at all—in fact, I recently increased how often we meet.
Personally, satisfaction during intimacy is what matters most to me.
My five-year partner was my type to begin with, has a great figure and silky-smooth skin, and has very few boundaries. She doesn’t mind 69 or standing rear-entry, and she’s affectionate with hugs, kisses, and oral.
The feeling that she genuinely accepts me is incredible. She also knows exactly how to please a man. Even if I occasionally lose my erection partway through, she knows how to get me back in the mood. She enjoys intimacy, gets very wet, responds strongly, and is very tight.
Sorry for bragging, but she really is amazing.
If I broke up with her, it would probably be difficult to find another woman at the same level. I’m always looking, though...
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If it lasts a year, it usually continues for four years or more.
Eventually, intimacy and dates start to feel repetitive. Then, when one of us gets busy, we see each other less often, and from that point on, we become dinner-only friends.
I have about ten women like that.
Things that have led to ending an arrangement:
- Being stood up at the last minute
- Graduation
- Moving away
- Her becoming completely passive
- Ignoring my messages for a long time
- Being late
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Regardless of whether it’s a compensated relationship, I think the best partners are those who can make even a routine, stagnant relationship feel comfortable.
In a compensated relationship, both people have their own benefits and reasons for continuing to meet, even without those things, so the longer it lasts, the less likely there is to be a reason to walk away.
However, unlike ordinary romantic relationships, there are always plenty of other potential partners to compare each other with.
What’s more, your partner may simply leave without ever voicing a single complaint, and compared with other women (or men), even something minor could easily become the deciding factor.
Also, just because he had the members-only page open doesn’t necessarily mean:
> Maybe he was looking for another woman.
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We’ve been seeing each other for five years now without either of us getting bored, just taking things as they come. Still, I think the trigger for ending a relationship is usually a change in your living situation.
The problem is, things just don’t change that easily, do they? Haha.
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In this kind of relationship, “ending things” means meeting each time, receiving your allowance, and then saying goodbye.
Over time, those meetings can add up, and when you look back, it may be called a long-term relationship. But you shouldn’t want a long-term arrangement from the very beginning.
One encounter, one lifetime. Every time you part ways, you should look at each other’s backs, put your hands together, and silently say, “Thank you.”
You may say this doesn’t really answer the question, but it’s important. That mindset is the key to being led into a long-term relationship.
Right now, I have one woman I’ve been seeing for six years, three for three years, one for two years, and one approaching a year. Recently, the woman I’d been seeing for three years found someone to marry and moved on. She wanted to continue seeing me, but I was the one who ended it. I felt bad for the man she was going to marry.
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When you go on the same type of date every time, you may grow tired of the dates themselves rather than of the person.
Possible reasons for ending the relationship include meeting another woman who’s more fun to be around or having your lifestyle change. If I started getting bored with our dates, I’d probably try exploring different types of dates before deciding to break things off.
I think the key to maintaining a long-term relationship is adding some variety so the dates don’t become repetitive. My partner also suggests all kinds of things.
It might be a good idea to find a hobby you both enjoy, too.
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