Which is viewed more favorably by society: doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through places like lounges or Universe Club while feeling guilty about it, or working a daytime job such as a part-time job, even though the pay is low?
Of course, if we’re talking only about money, the former pays more. I also understand that the hourly rates are completely different. And with papa-katsu, you can earn money if you put in the effort, right?
Do you think I should quit if I feel guilty about it?
The reason I’m struggling with this is that I recently met a girl who told me that she couldn’t make a living from a daytime job, so she was doing papa-katsu through a dating club.
It’s not that I want to imitate her, but I’ve started to lose confidence in my ability to support myself with a part-time job.
I also have a dream of working in show business, but after being a victim of nonpayment in the entertainment industry, I’m starting to lose confidence in managing on my own. That’s another reason I thought I might be able to earn money at a lounge.
Thank you for taking the time to read this long post.
If you’re worried about how people around you judge you, then you might as well work a regular day job.
Whether you feel guilty or not is ultimately up to your own mindset.
Work a normal job as a member of society, and do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to add a little enjoyment to your life through things like beauty treatments and travel.
Since you’re not desperate for the money, turn down any papas you don’t like and only see ones you click with—or at least don’t feel uncomfortable around. Personally, I find women with that approach easier to date, and I think it also allows them to enjoy both their everyday life and papa-katsu.
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If something like not being paid is enough to make you give up on your dream of working in entertainment, you’re better off giving up sooner rather than later.
People who pursue a career in entertainment don’t let something like that get them down, for better or worse.
By the way, there are also a fair number of reports of people not receiving their allowance through dating clubs.
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I read it twice, and no matter how I look at it, it doesn’t seem like a “serious question.”
Besides, saying that upfront just raises the bar. Apparently, Sanma never starts by saying, “I’ve got a funny story to tell.”
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When it comes to turning your own value into money, part-time jobs, regular day jobs, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and show business are all the same.
And if you take any of them lightly, you won’t make any money at all.
“It’s not about what you want to do, but what your customers want.”
Only people who seriously think about that, keep working persistently without giving up until they get results, and compete on a playing field where they can win will be able to make money.
Money isn’t something you’re simply given. It’s compensation for the value you provide, after your customers recognize and appreciate it.
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t easy enough that you’ll get paid just for making an effort.
With a part-time job, you’re paid by the hour. But with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), unless you receive an offer, your hourly rate is zero no matter how hard you work.
Don’t lose confidence over something like not being paid.
If you’re going to try papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or show business, instead of worrying about how society evaluates you, spend every waking moment thinking about:
・How can I make my customers smile?
・How can I make them smile even more?
・How can I get them really interested in me—
in other words, how can I turn them into fans?
Seriously think about those things and put them into practice.
If you can do that, your situation may gradually start to improve.
Wishing you success!
It’s Me
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Even in show business, if you don’t make it big, you won’t be valued at all.
If you’re going to worry about how others see you, you’re better off not doing it.
The same goes for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Even if you feel guilty about it, nothing else can fulfill you quite like this—that’s what papa-katsu is.
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When I was in college, a friend started working at a hostess club, and I was shocked by the difference in hourly pay. But I couldn’t drink, and I wasn’t confident I could handle it as well as she did, so I simply accepted that everyone has their own path and never felt envious.
Years later, I started seeing a benefactor with an allowance, and eventually joined a dating club as well, where I was introduced to some good people.
To begin with, can part-time work—or struggling entertainment work—really be considered socially respectable when you don’t have any particular professional skills? If you were applying for a mortgage, for example, neither would probably be accepted.
Working at a lounge is still a job, but dating through Universe Club isn’t.
Of course, if you have income, you’re required to report it.
Paying a lot in taxes might raise your social standing, though.
Marika
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If you’re aiming for a career in entertainment, you’ve probably already cleared the looks requirement.
Also, if you don’t dislike older men and can play up the sweet, calculated act, you might be able to earn good money.
The key is whether you can enjoy it. It’s not easy enough to keep doing if you hate every minute of it.
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Thank you for your question. I’ll share my thoughts as well.
If you feel guilty about it, I think you’re better off quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). You could simply get a part-time job, or there are plenty of other ways to earn money.
> Of course, if it’s only about the money, I’d choose the former.
I’m not entirely sure how things work at Universe Lounge—I mean, I don’t know whether you’re looking for someone just for a one-time arrangement or for a long-term relationship. My impression is that many men there are probably looking for something limited to that day.
With a dating club, there’s first the question of whether you’ll receive any offers at all. Even if you do, there’s no guarantee it will develop into a long-term relationship.
If you can get past those hurdles, you’ll probably receive a decent allowance. But if you can’t—for example, if you don’t get any offers at all—you may actually earn more from a part-time job.
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A part-time job is work, but dating isn’t. So I think having a part-time job is viewed more favorably by society because you’re technically working.
If you can handle papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) successfully despite feeling guilty about it, then go ahead. But judging from your question, it doesn’t seem like you’d be able to manage it well, so I think you’re better off avoiding it.
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