For a man earning over ¥30 million a year, is a monthly allowance of ¥200,000–¥300,000 realistically within reach if he genuinely likes the woman?
I can be fairly flexible about how often we meet. However, he is looking for a serious romantic relationship.
As for his situation, he is separated from his wife and sends her financial support once a year. His children have already moved out.
A man’s annual income isn’t all that useful as a reference point. The figure that affects the allowance most is his disposable income.
Even if he earns ¥30 million a year, if he has no assets and spends a lot on fixed costs like a mortgage, he may not have any room for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
On the other hand, even someone with no job and zero annual income could easily set aside around ¥1 million a month for papa-katsu if they have passive income from real estate, financial assets, affiliate marketing, and so on.
Rather than fixating on annual income, I think you can get a better idea of his ability to pay an allowance by naturally finding out during the conversation what he spends his money on each month and roughly how much he spends.
Also, judging from what I’ve heard from the P’s and PJ’s around me, the more financially comfortable a P is, the less likely he is to want a serious romantic relationship. That’s just a hypothesis based on the examples I’ve seen, though.
It’s me.
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From the way you phrased your question, it sounds like he could comfortably afford 20,000–30,000 yen, but it really depends on his personal values.
There are plenty of men who have money but simply don’t want to spend it on women. That’s just how they see things… and the reverse is true too, so hang in there.
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I don’t earn 30 million yen a year, but even if I had the financial flexibility, I probably wouldn’t pay around ¥200,000 a month.
It’s not like I only spend money on the women I date—I have plenty of other things to spend it on too（笑）
I view my dating-club spending as pocket money that doesn’t require receipts, so I might spend that much in the short term, but I’m doubtful I could keep it up consistently.
In my case, my spending at dating clubs comes to about 10% of my disposable income.
So, if I earned ¥30 million a year, I could probably afford one woman.
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If he really liked her, wouldn’t he give her ¥300,000 a month even on a ¥6 million annual income? I mean, who knows.
Women who get hooked on hosts are even worse, aren’t they?
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As you noted at the end of your question, annual income and the amount of money someone has available to spend freely aren’t the same thing.
That said, if he earns at least ¥30 million a year, a monthly allowance of ¥200,000–¥300,000 should generally be well within reach.
The relationship between genuine romantic feelings and an allowance is complicated, so what happens next will depend on how he feels at the time.
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