Things always end with a one-night stand for me.
I know I shouldn’t say this about myself, but I feel empty inside, and I’m not very good at cooking either.
I want to work on myself. To all the wonderful women on Universe, what do you do for self-improvement?
If things always end after just one night, does that mean there’s some major deal-breaker about you?
For example: not showering every day, having strong body odor, not talking, going on and on about a troubled past, constantly talking about money, not brushing your teeth, or smelling bad—including down there. If it were a man, how would you feel? You definitely wouldn’t want to date him, right?
You can’t cook very well? That has nothing to do with it. You’ve only met them once, after all. You’re not listing off your top 30 worst qualities, are you?
“Working on my femininity”? I don’t do anything like that. I diet so I don’t gain weight, because then I’d have to buy a whole new wardrobe.
I recently moved into the city and gained weight, so I lost 5 kilos. That worked really well for me♡~
I’m single, so I have to work hard. I can’t rely on anyone else. If I weren’t clean and well-groomed, I’d get complaints from people at work. Keep your nails short and clean, too.
Are you working, by the way? If you put your effort into even one thing, your expression will change, and you’ll become a beautiful woman with inner strength.
Start by working hard at your job. You’re in your twenties, right? Any company will hire you as a full-time employee.
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Karasaki from Universe Club’s Yokohama branch here.
Some men do consider cooking skills important when choosing a marriage partner, but they don’t expect them from someone they meet through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Rather than focusing on the often-mentioned idea of “feminine appeal,” try looking into what kind of women are popular in papa-katsu.
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Thank you for your question. I’ll answer as Maezawa as well.
> Things always end after a one-night relationship.
If things don’t lead to a second meeting, then, as you say yourself, there may be a problem somewhere.
I’m not sure why cooking came up here. Are you looking for someone to marry?
Even if you are, there are men who don’t care whether a woman can cook. Also, I think cooking only becomes a consideration after you’ve met several times and marriage starts to become a possibility.
With that in mind, perhaps the issue is that you have trouble carrying on a conversation? Maybe conversations with you end up drifting to completely unrelated topics.
That said, even if a woman isn’t good at conversation, being good in bed or having good chemistry with the other person can still lead to a second meeting or beyond. So if conversation is the problem, perhaps intimacy is what will get you past the first meeting.
(That’s assuming the conversation doesn’t go well. If you can keep the conversation lively, that alone should be enough to lead to a second meeting.)
Rather than simply trying to improve yourself, you may need to develop the ability to sense what the other person wants. I think it would help to keep that in mind as you interact with people.
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Even if there’s nothing deeper there, things can continue if, for example, you’re compatible in bed.
Rather than worrying about “working on your femininity” or whatever, I think you should take a closer look at why things keep ending after a one-night arrangement.
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When you say something about cooking, are you aiming to become a chef?
I think vague, empty statements like “working on becoming a better woman” are the kind of things boring women say. It would be better to set a more specific direction for your efforts.
Also, if it ends after one night, I don’t think you were even being played.
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