My male partner (69) said that it’s not entirely untrue that many men see their families as a legal institution—a spouse listed on their family registry—and haven’t been intimate with their wives for decades.
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I have a question for the male members here: Is that generally true?
Do some men seek a mistress outside the marriage because they can no longer be intimate with their wives?
But for these men, their family—including their wife—is still their top priority, right?
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To put it bluntly, even sex gets boring when it’s always with the same person you can have it with anytime.
It’s the same as a long-term relationship with a girlfriend becoming routine.
Once children come into the picture, many women may also become more focused on them.
I used to tell my ex-wife that I wanted us to be like air to each other.
I wanted her to be important—someone I couldn’t do without—but I didn’t want us to be clinging to each other all the time. That was the kind of emotional connection I wanted from a wife.
My ex-wife, on the other hand, didn’t have children, and we were still very much in love, so I don’t think she could really understand what I meant…
In other words, what I consider important in a wife and sex are two completely separate things.
And just to be clear, I never cheated while I was married.
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A family is built on a husband and wife protecting and maintaining their life and home together with their children. It’s not just about having sex.
In most cases, it’s extremely difficult to tear a family apart from the outside. Is that what you want to do?
What do empty words like “You’re the most important to me♡” really mean?
Is it possible that, because he can’t be intimate with his wife, he finds a mistress outside the marriage?
☆ Men and women think differently. Men may still have sexual desire even at 70 or 90—or possibly until the day they die.
However, isn’t his family—including his wife—his top priority? I don’t think he can put his family and his mistress on a scale and choose between them.
If you say this to a man, he’ll cool off immediately and the relationship will end. Be careful.
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Have you ever considered that everyone’s circumstances are different?
One of the women I’m seeing is married and in her late twenties. She’s intimate with her husband about once a week to once every other week, and naturally, her husband comes first in her priorities.
You’re nearly twice her age, yet you’re asking about something like this in an anonymous Q&A box. I have to say, you seem like a pretty uninteresting woman.
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In my case, that’s definitely true. That’s why I’m involved with a dating club.
I’ve limited myself to just one partner through the club. We’ve been together for five years now, and we’re very close!
My wife and I have stopped having an adult relationship (intimate), but we each live our own lives and still get along well. We live together, too, and there are no particular problems in our day-to-day life.
Is it really 46% among people in their 50s and older? So half of them are still active—good for them.
Anyway, I feel that I’ve gotten this far thanks in part to my wife’s support, so I believe it’s my responsibility to look after her for the rest of her life.
My partner is gradually reaching the age where she should start thinking about marriage, so I feel like I need to consider what to do soon—but she doesn’t seem interested at all...
I wonder what the right thing to do is...
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I always wonder about this:
Even if you ask and get an answer, what good does it really do?
Would it somehow make more sense if he told you, “You’re the most important person to me—more than my family or my wife, even though you’re younger”?
Or would you rather hear, “You’re someone I met by paying money, so you’re not as important to me as my family. But I’ll treat you well while this relationship continues”?
I don’t think anything good comes from trying to uncover the true meaning behind a man’s desire to be seen favorably or the lip service he gives.
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Whether it’s true or not,
that’s what I tell the woman in front of me.
In many cases, his wife will be his priority. These days, people can get divorced at any time, so if he chooses not to, she’s often someone special to him, including in the future. That said, the wife may be thinking, “I’ll wait until he needs nursing care to finally get my revenge.”
His wife’s “You’d better remember this…” Ahh, scary, scary…
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Ah, what a coincidence. My discovery today was that Putin and Tsutomu Sekine are the same age—70. Apparently Ikuzo Yoshi, Yukihide Takekawa, and Osamu-chan from The Bonchi are all 70 as well. That 69-year-old man you mentioned is currently one year younger than Putin, but depending on their birthdays, there may be a moment when they’re technically the same age.
It’s interesting how a quick Google search brings up statistics that seem relevant. Apparently, the sexless rate is 12% among people in their 30s, 28% in their 40s, and 46% among those 50 and older.
The same statistics also showed that couples living separately have sex more frequently. That’s pretty thought-provoking too（笑）.
What I found interesting was the percentage of people who have sex two or more times in one night. It’s apparently 5% overall—0% among people in their 20s, 9% in their 30s, 14% in their 40s, and 8% among those 50 and older. Somehow, it’s both amusing and sad. For some reason, seeing that made the phrase “fireworks finale” pop into my head.
That’s all from the scene.
Taro
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